Thoughts on the mother of the bride wearing white to the bridal shower? I (bride to be) would like my mom to wear a white dress she already has because it’s flattering on her and has a similar style to mine which I think would look cute but she’s worried that she shouldn’t wear white and what others might think. Wanted to see what others think of this, thanks!

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I would find it very odd to see MOB in a white dress, as would everyone I know. Will be an easy source of gossip and people saying nasty things - I would not purposely put my mom in that position. There is a whole universe of other colors and dresses out there. I’m sure she’ll find something lovely :)

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Unless it’s a small party and you can make it clear to everyone you told her to wear the dress, I would avoid. It gives “crazy mom in competition with her daughter” energy, even though that’s not the case. If you really love the dress maybe you can get it dyed light pink or something.

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Thanks, this is what I would of course want to avoid. I didn’t mind as it’s just the shower but if the rules and viewpoints apply as wearing white to a wedding then not worth the chatter

I’ll have to scope out that trend!

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To the shower, absolutely!! It's just a party. Do what you want.
Maybe see if your partner's mom can wear white as well

I don't see any problem with it. But If your mom doesn't feel confident in it, then I wouldn't force her in anyway even if I like it that much. Hope she'll find the best dress for her.

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