Tips for return to work after miscarriage? I just had my third miscarriage in 7 months, this one was the furthest iā€™ve made it at 12 weeks. I took 2 weeks of and am back today and really struggling. How can I just talk to coworkers knowing that my world is collapsing and I am ready to cry at any given momentā€¦ but they donā€™t know anything is wrong?

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šŸ’”šŸ˜­ Iā€™m so sorry to hear this news. That is devastating - my heart is breaking for you (sending you all the virtual hugs). Iā€™m glad you took the 2 weeks off to prioritize your recovery and wellbeing.

Iā€™m wondering if thereā€™s a way to let your project team know something along these lines, ā€œthanks for covering while I was out the last two weeks. Iā€™m not back to feeling 100% yet but will do my best. Appreciate your flexibility and patience as I return and try to get back in the grooveā€

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I told people and so many came out of the woodwork to share their miscarriage stories and give comfort.

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I went with ā€œIā€™m coming back from a traumatic experience that I donā€™t want to discuss and while Iā€™m back to 100% physically, Iā€™m still struggling mentally and appreciate your patience in the next few weeks.ā€

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I am so sorry for your losses. I found that it helped when I told a few people at work i was most comfortable with, so I didnā€™t have to bottle it up. You can be as detailed or vague as you want- do what feels right for you. Working from the couch helped (with camera off) for the days/ hours that felt extra rough. I tried the talk space benefit through KPMG as well. It wasnā€™t for me, but could be worth a try as an outlet. Sending you good wishesšŸ¤

So sorry for your loss, virtual hugs

I was very open to those I trusted and decided to take an extended leave. When I came back I was mentally in a better space and was thankful I took the time off to grieve

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