Tips on dealing with very difficult peers at work? Trying not to lose it with this guy. He takes credit for my work, doesn’t respect my schedule, treats me like I’m his admin etc.

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Document everything and establish boundaries


How to respectfully establish boundaries? This has been going on for over a year now, b/c I wanted to assume the best, but I’m at my wits end

Two things I did that helped me in these situations. 1) I establish clear roles and responsibilities up front, 2) give him just-in-time feedback. We work with so many type As in rapid pace environment, I’ve learned most people don’t have the self-awareness to stop and think about what they are doing wrong. If he’s not willing to take feedback and correct his behaviors, I’d get the project leadership involved.


Hi OP! I think my personality (some may call abrasive/direct...) helped me navigate these kind of situations. It happened to me by a co-lead, who is a born to delegate anything and everything. If I was delegated by him to do some administrative tasks, I would respond to say something like “it seems that we need to discuss ancillary tasks that currently do not have owners assigned to them, such as this particular task. I am happy to take this on to get us started, but let’s discuss a path forward.” If he’s being a D about it (likely he would be), id honestly just say “let’s discuss this over the phone so we don’t make this a problem.” Good luck, OP!!


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