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Tips or commiseration for dealing with the breakup of a serious relationship during a particularly high-pressure client service week?

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Honestly finding other people who had been through similar situations. If you have team members you're comfortable with, be honest and what's going on in your life cause sometimes just a reminder that you'll get through it is what you need. I also use work as a distraction and cry alone in my hotel room - sounds weird but it does help to get it out. It sucks, I'm sorry but know you're not alone, there are others (like me!) in the same place right now and at the end of the day we'll both be better than ok.

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Broke up with the girl I thought I was gonna marry three months ago. As a guy, initially it didn't sink in as some part of me thought something will work out. After a month and half when it sunk in, it hurt like hell. I tried to talk to her and see if we can fix something but she clearly moved on. Started with heavy drinking and all but now I have hired a personal trainer and am in the best fitness run of my life. Trying to get over the negativity with keeping myself busy. I volunteer for extra work at work and hit the gym as soon as I am back to my hotel. Weekends I work out with my PT. All said and done, I figured the trick is to constantly be doing something. The more your mind is occupied the less it is thinking about your ex. Keep yourself busy. Sign up for everything and just show up. Be it gym, volunteer as tax person for poor, or do PRD or whatever. Empty mind is devil's den. I think of it as if she left me now she would have left me in future and her leaving me now is better than her leaving me in future. Just try to be the best version of yourself. Time will heal this. It won't heal the loss of possibilities, the loss of spending your life with the woman you loved but you can take solace in the fact that you tried to make it work. Keep your chin up and fake it till you make it.

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I was engaged, changed my work arrangement to live in the same city as him and travel less, only for him to break it off a month later. You will get through this, friend.

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I allowed myself to go through the 7 stages of grief (fully aware how heinously sappy that sounds but it really works.) I had some breakdowns in the ladies room of my office, on the train, in front of friends etc. allowed myself to be cry and indulge my feelings, ate a lot and gained weight (don't recommend that part.) I was working a high profile project at the time and had to keep it together but wanted to implode. Had a shitty manager who didn't help the situation but ultimately here's how I slowly recuperated: 1.) threw myself into my work and knocked the project out of the park 2.) wrote him long letters and cried it out until I started seeing things clearly and past the haze. I never sent the letters, just kept them in a journal 3.) got with a personal trainer friend, set fitness goals and got into better shape. That part took some time but there is no substitute for exercise, period. Find a sport or activity you like and push it.

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Why do we fall? To pick ourselves up again.

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Sorry I just went Dr.Phil on your feed-- but I remember how low I was in that time of my life. And actually, that whole tirade helped me make my industry--> consulting transition so, something good came out if it!

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Thanks guys. I appreciate all the doctoring. I actually do have teammates helping me out. It really sucks—I thought I was going to marry that girl.

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So sorry OP! I went through a similar situation recently and agree with all the above. Throwing yourself into work as a distraction definitely helps, as does alt traveling to make fun plans with friends/family you can lean on. Each day it will hopefully hurt a little bit less!

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That is rough. Super sorry.

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No advice better than BAH's but I'm really sorry to hear that man. Glad we have a little family/ support system going on fishbowl 👊

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Stay away from social media

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Beer and weed

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BAH1 is my hero

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*blushes* learn from my mistakes boys, learrrn. Be authentic in your grief, don't bottle it all in and don't implode like I almost did. Not worth it. Oh, and never think that some ppl have it all figured out because their relationships seem perfect. The older I get (I'm 31) the more I'm seeing how those "perfect" couples are not so perfect. Indulge your pain now and emerge an even more self aware man. Doing your future gf and wife a favor ;-)

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Final Dr. Phil moment: boxing classes will get those demons out. I promise.

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Wine. Lots of it

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In time you were get your power back and see this as a blessing in disguise. While that doesn't make this any less painful now, and that revelation may not be in the next month (maybe year, not sure how deep this relationship was), you are are a better man for enduring this now as opposed to experiencing a rude awakening down the road. Just trust me. And in the meantime: wine, boxing, and a good angry cry. 🙌🏽

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Thanks for all of this, you guys.

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It's so sweet of you to check on me 😳 Yes I am—I took this week one day at a time, and each day was slightly better than the last. With each day that passes I'm having an easier time realizing what might be good about the end of that relationship, and though I'm still kind of sad and lonely and pissed, I know I'm going to get through it just fine. I've had a great support network, including you and everyone else on this thread!

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Good advice. I've been doing my favorite leisure activities—shooting and flying—a lot. That helps take my mind off of it for a while.

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