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Multiple. If something happens to one god forbid, you have another. If something happens to you they have each other. They will have ready made friends. They can support each other growing up. You have multiple people to spread your love across.
I was an only child growing up, wished I had a brother or sister. Will definitely be aiming for at least 2. #1 is currently on the way!
I have twins who just turned 2. I love my little assholes
P- Maybe op adopted a 2 year old?
Same boat OP. I would love for my 2 year old to have a sibling. But we are barely scraping through with one. I can't even imagine having two. On one hand it seems selfish. On the other I feel like I would be saving the unborn kid from our poor parenting. I kid, but seriously the thought of more parenting workload seems impossible to me at the moment. Maybe that will change once we are out of the terrible twos, let's see.
Also depends on personal situation I guess. We both work in hectic jobs with occasional travel. We have no family in the country. Live in the bay area, so can't imagine one of us not working given costs in the area. I am sure my answer would be different had any single one of these parameters been different.
I think at least two. I have one two year old, one on the way. The thinking was the existing one is very active, always needs attention. Having the 2nd one will help the loneliness and overall better environment to grow up for both of them.
Sorry for the typo.. our LO just turned two.. so not new š
I like the idea of two.. sibling love.. friendship.. playmate... But given how much even one is.. I just don't know if two is worth it.. I.e. further marginalizing their best growth (with more day care time, less parents time) and also trying to balance career aspirations with family aspirations
Our 2 and 3 year olds are best friends. Hard to imagine either as an only child
I was an only child and loved it. Itās really not as bad as everyone thinks. I had a ton of friends come over to play all the time, was very involved in activities and an engaged, socialized child. Itās possible!
I have an older sibling (6.5 years older) and given age difference we were not close growing up and the gap widened through adulthood. We havenāt seen or talked to each other in 12 years. Part of that is one me, part on me. We have nothing in common other than having the same parents
We each had siblings and wanted two kids but turns out we were lucky to have one. I don't think it's right or wrong, just a different experience.
Having multiple children is for the children. They need siblings when youāre not there
I have four (#3 was a surprise that doubled). There is a time cost in terms of one on one time, but I donāt see it as a development cost to them. They learn from and nurture each other, which is lovely to see. We have also been lucky to have an amazing couple of au pairs who helped us through the first four years. Weāve had to consciously expand the number of adults in their lives that they can see as carers - their god parents take very active roles with them and give them a lot of attention and time as well.
In short, donāt think you have to be the sole source of your babies love, support and development. Build a team around them
To be practical - ādonāt have more than you can afford to raise properly ā think college costs etc. superficial, but a real concern. Also, agree with other re āmore than oneā. We have two adult children and they have always been best friends
More then one child def.. they need each other when we ll be long gone..
also, raising them is not a walk in the park.. however, weigh this is for the long term, isnāt it? So have to put up with the stress in the short term..
We always knew we wanted 2. Before my daughter, we were always noticed my son watching siblings play together. He seemed a little sad. However, donāt feel bad about about having just 1. My sonās best friend is an only child and heās fine. He treats my kids as siblings.
OP same boat. Part of me wants to think about future with multiple kids but as a woman my career even right now with an adorable 2 yo is barely staying on line. Another one will mean a significant hit to my career if i even manage one in this career