To all the women out there who are estranged from their mothers, from their abusive or neglectful relationship, an acknowledgment that Mother’s Day can be hard.

There are all these stories of caring mothers or obligation to love your mother.

Do something nice for yourself this weekend. Remind yourself that you can be the mother to yourself that you always needed.

There are more of us in this group than you may have realized. You’re not alone.

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This is well needed. Thank you.

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This, so much this

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Thank you. I read all the cards for her birthday or Mother’s Day and can never pick one that would fit our relationship…..

I usually stuck to funny or factual. Funny: there’s no one quite like you! Factual: it’s Mother’s Day.

I’m now estranged and although I still occasionally get someone trying to shame me into contact or sending something, I am completely comfortable with my choice and happier since leaving the role of target for her abuse.

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