To experience a rich life, one’s best investment is in that which even those with significant monetary wealth won’t be able to purchase at any price…. Relationships , health, and learning

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Is that your way to tell us that you don't make enough dough to FIRE?

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SMC, I’ve heard the same from a mentor I had years ago. She was a senior executive and when we met, she was around 50. She told me that even though she’s proud of her professional accomplishments, she regrets not finding a SO or having a family. Now that she’s older, she lives alone and does career coaching. But what she said hit home for me. At the end of the day, you can have all the money in the world but if you have no one to share it with, all you have are 0’s in the bank. You can have fancy dinners, clothes, but at some point, even that won’t fulfill you.

Money is a tool to get all 3. Lot of relationships fail because of money. People die and don’t go to college because they can’t afford.

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D1, exactly. All the money and bad health will just ensure you’ll be more comfortable but won’t buy you more time. Using the money to ensure you stay as healthy as possible for as long as possible is how you can enjoy the money you’ve made.

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Yes, but you need to have a certain standard of living to get all 3. If not you’re always stressing about something, eg rent, food, bills etc.

So for example, the primary downside imho of say taking fire at say 1m is the social isolation of living on 35 k -40k a year…. Not the material want. If I had friends and family and ample social circles of people who would do the same I’d be much more likely to fire earlier. If this effect happens to most people, it probably explains why fire is so fringe. The math and discipline are required but also one’s fire number will increase over time as one’s social expectations inflate… this effect is amplified even more so for people who only have as their reference other high earning high consumption professionals like themselves.

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I am a surgical coordinator at NYU and have been in my position for 3.5 years. There’s not much room for growth and I’m getting to a point of being burnt out. I am looking for a career change but kind of at a loss. I do enjoy working in healthcare, but am open to anything. Any suggestions? Thanks!

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I am out of a gig or will be very soon, have a not so great stash saved and no leads. But you know what? I’m NOT worried and I’m grateful for what I have. My health, my skills and my attitude.

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The main partner I work for is constantly trying to set “legal traps” to see if I fall into them. For example, he ask me a specific legal question (to which he already knows the answer) to see if I am able to deliver. I’m so nervous now (this has been going on for over a year) that I often end up falling into his trap by doing (stupid) mistakes. What do you advise me to do? My self confidence is slowly getting destroyed. This does not happen with other partners.

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