Today is my birthday and I’m having the worst day. I’m pretty sure my husband forgot until he saw a Facebook post and even then, he put zero effort into anything. I’m already sad and depressed that I can’t see my family and he knew that. I’ve really been struggling with my marriage and this just shows me even more that he doesn’t care about me. We have kids that I’m trying to stay strong for but I’m starting to crack. I just want this day to be over.

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I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe treat yourself to something nice or do something nice for yourself. You are your best cheerleader.

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I’m so sorry and pray that you are able to enjoy what’s left of your special day ❤️ In my humble opinion, he’s not deserving of you, especially knowing that he knows how you are feeling and not doing anything as your husband to help you through this tough time. And the worst thing we can do is stay in marriages because of the children. They pick up on our unhappiness and it can have the opposite effect that we hope for in staying married [for the children]. I’m a divorced mother of a 4-year daughter and am so happy I made the decision I did to cut the fat and remain true to myself/not compromise my worth/values.

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I'm so sorry to hear this story. Take time for yourself. I have had similar things happen in my life. I decided it was time for me. Started eating healthier, exercising daily, lost 25 lbs. I take even more time for my kids and knock it out of the park at work. Let him see that he can't bring you down.

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You are worth more than that type of treatment!

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Happy birthday! The good thing abt 2020 birthdays is that they don’t count. Tomorrow is a brand new day and you should probably accidentally shrink your husband’s favorite shirt.

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We are all sending you huge birthday wishes from all over the place and celebrating you! You deserve to be honored and celebrated on your special day!

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I’m so sorry to hear this. Happy birthday!!!!!!

Before this special day ends, love yourself! Sit down and write down all of the things that make you beam, shine, be proud and worthy. You are uniquely awesome and the gift that always keeps giving and keeping sight to loving yourself 😊

Happy birthday! Please take care and stay strong for your children.

Happy birthday to you friend! Yes, we are friends. You are seen and recognized. And most importantly you are worthy of finding a partner in life who makes you feel that way.

Virtual hug. Happy belated birthday and I hope you enjoyed it with your children. I am going through the same with my marriage. I am trying to stay strong for the kids.

Also sending support. And while doing something for yourself is great, please also tell your husband how you feel. Things are resale tough for even the best couples right now. Very easy to get stuck in a zombie like state between election stress, covid, financial worries etc. every day just feels like a slog.

Not excusing your husbands behavior whatsoever but please don’t suffer in silence. He needs a wake up call regardless of whether this is circumstantial or does speak to a larger trend in your relationship

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