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Bring in cupcakes on Monday and when people ask why, tell them they forgot your birthday this week.
Truth time.
I make a big ass deal about November being my birthday month BECAUSE my special day accidentally fell through cracks more than once. And it made me sad.
So, now, I take it upon myself to say "happy my birthday month!" In my own cheeky and fun way. :)
Yes
Should clarify - my manager and I have a unique relationship. He’s not the greatest to work with and I’m reading into my standing on the team.
You're not overreacting if they did it for others
I get what you mean its not so much that its your birthday but more like the team isn't really taking you in. took a while to warm up to my team as well
First of all, happy birthday! To give them the benefit of doubt, maybe they don't know the date?
Reading from your other reply, you're worried that this shows your standing in the team? If it is, don't be. Birthday is kind of trivial at work and a lack of greeting for one doesn't represent anything.
Maybe take the time to plan what you want to do on your birthday. Hopefully, it can take your mind of it for the better.
Happy birthday!
Genuine question- did they know it’s your birthday?
There was a slack message from our central team saying whose birthdays were today and this weekend
I think birthday greetings are overrated. It's just another way of saying "Hey, you're OLD!".
Also, we now have data privacy rules where consent is needed for collecting birth dates and for sharing of birthday greetings in mailers / postcards / events.
My company is the same way!! they sometimes do a lot for some people...and nothing for others. I know it's petty to care, but it does bother me because I think it should be a consistent effort. I would go out and enjoy yourself and not be too sad...but maybe something to suggest to HR etc so that everyone gets equal treatment
Sorry bud, that's not fun. I don't think you're overreacting but maybe you can try not to have those types of expectations so you don't feel disappointed.
I've got great standing within my team, but I hadn't made it onto anyone's birthday list when mine rolled around almost a year in with the new team, and I didn't advertise, so nobody knew to say anything. This year I was on the segment birthday blast that went out across the country, so I don't expect that I'll be forgotten.
If you have indication that your manager intentionally didn't say anything, as in they did announce it last year, there's pause for concern. Beyond that, it's more likely just a lack of awareness.
I think it depends on the type of person they view you as too and if they know it’s your birthday. For me, I generally don’t advertise my birthday and I never take my birthday off so my teammates think I don’t take birthdays as seriously and in turn don’t write a e-birthday card or tell me happy birthday even though we have an all hands saying whose bdays were that month. I’ve had other coworkers that make sure to let people know or make a big deal about it and take the day off to celebrate and they usually will get an e-birthday card and more happy birthday messages because people feel they’ll appreciate it more.
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday! I'm the opposite. I'm like 'Dammit, don't broadcast it.' I don't work on my birthday on purpose. It could be on a midweek day and I'm taking PTO.
We all jointly agreed to create a birthday calendar and everyone can share it, this way everyone is equally reminded and never miss a birthday as a result. Some team mates choose not to opt in as they do not like the fuss
Don't feel bad, and it happens often.
I work for a team in Google research, and two months ago we had a new director who had an anniversary of joining Google for number of years. The team admin organized special email to be sent to wish him well while he's going to New Zealand to "work remotely", while I have the same anniversary at the same time and also have the same number of years at Google as that new director, but the team admin simply not noticing it or just ignored it.
I just view it as the admin was simply trying to kiss up, who seems to only care what's going on with the higher ups but not the work bees in the team.
It's not worth feeling sad for something like this, and certainly not worth it to act it out or make a scene.
Expectations are the root of resentments.
Honestly, I'm surprised if anyone remembers my birthday. That said, I'm old enough to start dreading the next birthday.
It's my birthday today, and crickets in my inbox, I suppose I'll take the rest of the day and polish my resume...