Toddler still wakes up multiple times during the night for milk bottle. I just can't seem to get myself to let her cry it out. Most nights it's fine between the husband and me. But some nights...

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That was my same situation. Although my son wouldn’t tolerate Daddy in the room to console him at night (like crazy screaming if he went in there) - so those multiple times of getting milk and consoling per night fell to me. I was just exhausted. All the time. So finally my husband was like we can’t do this anymore and he slept on the floor of my son’s room for about 2 weeks and toughed it out with him. He didn’t let him cry forever, and he was right in the room to console him, but slowly the night wakings reduced and everyone was happier because of more sleep. My son was probably like 2.5 when we started this and he’s a little over 3 and mostly sleeping through the night now. You don’t have to let her cry it out all alone, there are modified versions of crying it out , or make your own version like we did. I wish we hadn’t waited as long.

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"No cry sleep solution" - - great book and practical advice.

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Feel like I am screwing up this whole parenting thing big-time.

Omg this sounds like me, my daughter is 2 n half and exact same story. Noawadyas she throws terrible fits of anger if she doesn’t get milk. Really poor eater otherwise

D1 - yep, mine is a fussy picky poor eater too. One of the reasons I hesitate to cut her milk bottles coz I worry if she will get enough nutrition. Doc has said not to worry and cut the night bottles, but when she cries I feel such overwhelming amounts of guilt for denying her milk. Already exhausted at that point after a full day of working, so don't have energy to fight the guilt

A recent phenomenon that has started is her not being able to burp after those night bottles. Didn't happen every night, but when it happens, no one gets any sleep at all, including the toddler

EY1 - thank you for sharing your experience and advice. We have been meaning to do it for sometime now, but feel like at least one of us needs to take a week off from work to do it. Coz I am imagining those days would be the hardest at night. The consulting life is making it so difficult to do it, especially given we already take sick leave to care for daughter on a frequent basis (she has bronchiolitis, so every once in a while we end up at the ER).

C1 - ordering on Amazon right now

Overall is this a problem with us not cutting the night bottle or not sleep training? Or are the two related? Which one should I tackle first? Throw away bottles or sleep training? Or if they are related do both go together?

I hired a sleep consultant to help me break my 17mo old's habit of waking in the night to eat. Best money I've spent!

D2 - how did you go about finding a sleep consultant? How much did it cost? Was it covered by insurance?

D2 - Also consulting as in is this just advice? Or do you take the baby to a clinic or something for hands on help?

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This issue has driven me and husband up the wall. I travel 3-4-5 and poor husband has to go through sleepless nights

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I hired a sleep consultant who was a pediatric nurse
She was on call for me for 2 weeks and we talked twice a day to make and refine our plan. It was essentially gradual extinction, but it felt good to have an expert guiding me through it

Thank you for sharing A1 and D2!

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