Tonight I’m going to go home and tell my wife that I lost my job (or that I have six weeks left) for the second time in a year. One was a lay-off, the other was a shitty start up that fucked me.

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I can't imagine leaving my husband because he lost his job. We're a team and we'll figure it out. He got fired for doing something really dumb several years ago and the thought seriously never even crossed my mind. I was pissed off for a bit for sure, but splitting up? Never.

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DM me. We have a ton of openings at my company and I am quite close to some of the decision makers. I would love to help if I can, OP. I’m 100% serious

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She was surprisingly supportive and understanding.

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That's grace dude. It's part of marriage and just remember to show your appreciation and see support and understanding as the foundation of a good relationship and marriage.

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Imagine how good you’re going to feel when your wife just hugs you and says “we’re going to get through this.” Try not to sell people short, she might surprise you.

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Don’t you fuck dare put yourself in such a fucked up mindset! You’re capable and competent. You’ll get a new and better job.

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@GD1: yes

Thanks for all of the kind words. Things are ok with us. We’ve been married for 10 years this year. We have had some very rough patches and I expected this to be another one. It hasn’t been so far.

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Keep on going!

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The bright side is 6 weeks is just enough time for you slide from one role into another.

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I know the feeling, the same thing has happened to me this week. The good news is you know the process and likely developed connections from the first time. Take 48 hours for yourself and then start reaching out. I’m sending you some good thoughts.

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Either way we have kids to feed, and I’d be shocked if when I came back to work on Tuesday I wasn’t separated from her. Fuck.

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There’s no need to be catty to each other of this thing. OP, let her know your hurt and worried about how she feels and give her the chance to brain storm this with you. It’s best to be open about your feelings and concerns and if you’re open for help, ask her for it. She’ll want to be there for you and help you recover. It’s better to cry together than for each of you to be emotional alone - married 11yrs, Female, been there

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You’re going to make it. You will.

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Are you in Chicago? Our company has openings and we’d be glad to have you. Also have a pretty strong network in other agencies here too.
Regardless - you’ve got this, OP. And we’ve got your back.

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Everyone is this thread restored my faith in humanity

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Sorry to hear that. This industry sucks. But to have made it to your level, I’m sure you’re smarter than most people. So maybe this will be your chance to redefine what you want to do with your life and venture out on a much more rewarding path somehow?
I’ve been there and it worked out for the better!

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I really hope your prediction doesn’t come true.

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That’s the RISK you take in this industry. Helps to have a savings account when times get tough.

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Unfortunately, that's the nature of the business. I've been married for 20 years, have been laid off twice, once after leaving a solid job of 8 years for a "great" opportunity to only be let go less than a year later. I too did the start up thing, got paid crap when I did get paid. In the end, he stuck with me, didnt bitch (too much) and now I make more than him (lol). If your spouse leaves you because you lose your job, the person isnt worth it and your be better on your own.

I'm glad she turned out to be the supportive partner you needed her to be.

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Hey OP - this thread has been the brightest spot in my week. Give your wife some love and give yourself some too.

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Ugh. Good luck. 🍀

Sorry to hear this. Happy to help if you’d like to connect on Linkedin (Blake Herder). Many other great agencies in your area! Keep yer head up.

Wife and I decided today to split up for a while. The pressure of not having an income has been pretty intense and the job market is tough right now.

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