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tonight my date ended with “are you ok?”. i have IBS and i struggle to digest and i know i’m thin as a result. i’ve been asked before if i’m ok. it saddens me and i’m starting to think i shouldn’t date anymore. i remain self conscious due to symptoms and also judgement on image

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Just be truthful. You'd be surprised, people are a lot more understanding that you think.

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in this instance i had to, and i was. i was even going to be honest at brunch when i only got a salad. i ordered the house salad without dressing and cheese and of course was asked “that’s it??”. yep. it’s all i can handle. i mentioned i was plant based and that’s something else he mentioned - “i know you don’t eat meat but...”

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You should look into working with a naturopathic doctor. I just started working with one and she recommended a bunch of GI friendly supplements based on all my tests.

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No advice, but sending love. I’m naturally small and joke about not cooking (I legitimately hate it, so I order in all the time), but my two best friends staged an intervention. I’ve been self conscious about it ever since.

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Yup, they sat me down and told me they were concerned about my eating habits, and offered to cook for me or help with meal prep if I wanted it, and they were always here to listen and understood what I was going through.... I was completely blindsided and so self-conscious. I stopped joking about not cooking after that, obviously.

I’ve been battling IBS related stuff too. Just spent $1,000+ on all sorts of tests and am still struggling to find relief.

I was dating this one girl for a little and she thought I had an eating disorder because I ate so little; it was actually me trying to avoid intestinal discomfort so I was super picky and ate minimally.

I’m drastically changing my diet and lifestyle, but I think it’ll be worth it, and I think it’ll help lead me to the right person. Follow your gut...

not at all lmaoooo

this is what i graze on all day. broccoli, carrots, cauliflower, tomatoes, zucchini, bamboo..anything green basically

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i didn’t 😏

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and my too thin of a body

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YES! except i don’t get those comments lol i only get the anorexic ones

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