Trying for a baby- already worried about how I will share if we do get pregnant. How far along did you share w your boss/company. I’m at a rapidly growing start up with a lot of responsibility. Leadership/C Suite is incredibly supportive of taking leave and parents in general (and supported the policy we implemented) but mid level managers and employees look at it as a lack of commitment to take parental leave. It’s a male dominated industry and very few women have taken parental leave here.

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Since wfh I shared a few weeks after the anatomy scan. I’ve never heard anyone who regretted taking their full leave. Only heard of people who regretted cutting it short

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I shared with my project team at 14 weeks because we had an on-site trip, it was noticeable, (twins), and overall, I'm fortunate we're a close team.

Shared to HR after the 20 week anatomy scan

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Thanks!!

I joined a series A startup as an exec when I was 7 weeks pregnant. I told my manager on my first day and everyone else at 10 weeks. I was really sick so there was no hiding.

I’ll be the second person at the company to ever take maternity leave. We similarly have very few women and the men usually take virtually no time even though it’s offered to them.

Maybe because I’m in a leadership role, but I see this as a critical time where I can set an example. All parents should take parental leave (when they have the privilege… universal leave is another topic for another post). It’s important to the health of the birthing parent (when applicable), the baby, and the family. So I’ve been clear from the start that I’ll be out the last quarter of this year. Everyone has been really supportive! Like, so supportive. Companies that genuinely value diversity will be! And honestly, if they weren’t or become less supportive over time, then I’d rather work someplace else.

BUT you absolutely don’t need to tell people until you’re comfortable! Like I said, I was just so sick that it was impossible to hide.

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Thank you so much!

*Not that my job is so high level/responsible - just that I am the only one that currently does it, so not so easy to just hand to someone else who already does the same thing. My boss would have to handle.

Same here. It took us some time to get pregnant with baby #2 and had some losses so wanted to share when I felt comfortable and decided to wait until 20 weeks scan to tell my boss. We then aligned on a plan for when I was on leave (I’m the only person in the job) and then told exec and sr stakeholder

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