Trying to see something- Please comment below if you have at least one adult sibling who is a failure to launch/has a lifestyle subsidized by your parents with no plan for independence.

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I did but I’m proud to say at 29 he launched and as of last night, at 31, he is a proud father with his wife and the baby will be going to the (albeit modest) home they own together. I know plenty of other people in our age group that are failure to launch though.

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As an only child, I couldn’t get away with having my family subsidize my life. On the other hand, I’m thinking of all my close-ish friends who have siblings, and all but one have this sibling. All of these subsidized siblings are men, oddly.

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Definitely. I also think there’s cultural implications. I’d be curious to know how many of these subsidized siblings are children of immigrants.

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He has transitioned to finding girlfriends who will serve this purpose but otherwise I’d say yes I have one of these

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Same.

Ya I got one of those

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Yes! My brother is like this

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Yup. My brother was like this for YEARS. He finally got on track…at like 37/38.

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I've got two 🥰

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Lucky ducky

How about an adult sibling subsidised by yours truly? Love her though.

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Yes - my older brother. Never figured it out until about 33. He has a physically demanding job.

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Yup. 32-year-old younger brother.

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yuppppp

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Yes. My 32-year-old younger sister. And my 40-year-old older brother to a certain degree as well. I'm the only one who's fully independent.

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This is a dynamic that exists in my family and I’ve seen it disproportionately among others in BigLaw. I feel like there are many of us who come from codependent family systems where some siblings take on the role of dependent and others take on the role of people pleasers with few boundaries, which allows us to succeed in this field. Just a thought

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Not sure if you mean this in a they’re still functional adults but leech off parents kind of way. But my sister is in her mid-30s with kids (little-to-no father involvement), lives with my mom and doesn’t really do anything, so a more extreme example.

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Yep, both my older siblings are dependent on our retired parents. One is disabled, so his dependence is not a failure to launch, just due to his circumstances. However, the other sib and her husband are both definitely in the failure to launch category. But have good educations and almost zero income, live in a house bought by parents, drive cars bought by parents, bills paid by parents, loads of free baby sitting from parents, etc.

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Older brother. Not subsidized by parents at this point but by wealthy girlfriend. Divergence in our achievements and drive has been staggering since elementary school, at least.

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