Tw: abuse


I found out recently that my grandma abused my dad really bad when he was younger and it seems they act like it never happened. I feel so much anger toward her and I don’t know if I want to see her. I used to go to her house often but I don’t know how to get over it. My dad is an emotional person and it seems she takes advantage of it. I never really noticed it until I found out about his childhood.

I have no clue what to do

The way we get comforted after being sad matures with age, How do you like to be comforted when you’re sad or upset after 30s & 40s? Talk to the person you love? Alcohol? Alone time? Podcast? Yoga?

Going to attend my MBA in a top b school soon but I feel absolutely anxious and scared. I havent socialized in the past 2 yrs and Im just really overwhelmed

I am dating an African American woman. Together 3+ yrs, in general things are good. Would like to take our relationship to next level but I worry cultural difference may be an issue long term. By cultural difference I mean things like — tendency to divorce (I think the Nigerian / African culture has more marital patience), first world expectations in life (my gf has never left USA before and I want to live in Nigeria, with all its 3rd world problems, at some point), etc Anyone faced this before?

Has anyone had the experience where they travelled home for the weeks around Christmas but wound up having tension with family because you had to stay logged on all the time and couldn’t spend much time with them?

How much should I accept from a sugar daddy on a weekly basis? No physical touch just a companionship model.

Heard anywhere from 1-2k a week to 5-6k a week.

Looking for some advice from fellow fishes here. How important do you all think it is to have a second baby ? We have a 2 year old now and we are trying for our 2nd. We have been trying for over a year now and started fertility treatment recently. I am not looking forward to IUI, IVF etc especially since we don’t have any much help and my husband and I both have full time jobs. Is it a deal breaker for our kid not to have a sibling ? Is it going to be worth the pain to go through fertility?

The regional average for pay around here (tulsa) is pretty low. I've got to find something that will help me better my family. (55k) ain't cutting it. I've been doing this for 14 years now.... I'm tired

Why is it so hard to join a group ? My boyfriend has his group of friends (both males and females) but every time we hang out with them, I feel left out because I don’t have history with them and they all have their inside jokes and stories. He said I need to try more to interact with them but honestly I feel like certain friends mostly his female bestie is trying to not include me. I’ve tried to become friends with her but she’s not putting in effort to get to know me … I need advice.

I ran into my ex a couple days ago and it’s just all screwed with my head. We are kinda talking and he invited me to his company holiday party to be his +1.

And then he’s been ignoring me.

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

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I am working from home since March 2020, Got married in Dec 2020..My wife may have thought that we will move to Pune after marriage but we are here in 2022 and I am still working from home..My office is still offering work from home for a long time may be but my wife is forcing me to move to Pune. How to convince her to stay at hometown only..PS. I live in a District not a village and I live with my parents.

At this moment, I am almost depressed. I am in a relationship with this guy for 2 years now. In the past 2 years, we have fought more than we have lived days with peace. We both have high ego problems because of which it’s really hard to resolve a conflict. Things have recently escalated to calling names/swearing and even physically abuse from both sides. We both want to end the relationship, have tried so many times, but we cannot.

Cont. in comments.

Am I gonna be alone forever?! I’ve been in a handful of long term relationships. Some great and we ended as friends, some ended crappy. But all in all I do have some relationship experience. But after this last break up, I’m starting to get a little hopeless..(34yo lesbian here)

Curious what your parents think about you working in Accounting? Know it's typical to grow up with Asian parents who always push you to get into the medical industry or engineering

My boyfriend has a list of rules to follow as life guidance. I recently disagree with one of them and suggested that it could lead to miscommunication. He claimed that I shouldn’t be insinuating that there’ll be a miscommunication until there’s one (there was one in my opinion but he didn’t realize) and I’m reading things too much. Did I do something wrong here? I didn’t mean to be judgmental but just want to tell him things I observed.

How do you cope with loving someone who’s in love with someone else? It’s slowly breaking me down & I don’t really have anyone that I can talk to. Any words of encouragement or previous experiences with this is appreciated. Thanks ❤️

Asking for my cousin... wanted to get some ideas from this group.
Cousin’s husband (bread winner for the family) got a brain stroke and collapsed. Thankfully alive but not in responsive state, recovery is months away. Cousin has no idea on family finances (bank accounts, shares that have liquid money). Phone passcodes, laptop passcodes are unknown too. He has deliberately kept these details away from her. Now what are her options, there are quite a few hospital expenses . <they are in India btw>

Hi SP’s! Anyone here have experience with telling their child about the divorce and how he will never have certain things (like daddy sleeping over or mommy sleeping over) etc? I really need some guidance right now. Feeling really broken as my son (5) is constantly battling his feelings of wanting to be with mommy vs daddy. He often tells us, “when I’m with mommy, I miss daddy. When im with daddy, I miss mommy!” And would often cry bc he can’t have us both. We try to co-parent and be in (cont)

I have the biggest crush on my wife right now. Married 7 years, together for 15 plus. Went through a couple years of some staleness after kids and then it hit me like a ton of bricks how lucky I am. It’s like being a teenager again. I can’t stop thinking about her and I can’t keep my hands off of her when I get home.

Tomorrow, Wednesday at 12PM EST, is our sober in advertising AA meeting. Still looking for a speaker if someone is willing to qualify!

Has anyone cashed out a term life policy? Any hiccups? What was your experience?

Hi I have offer from tcs but at my current company I have signed a bond but when I resigned my company not accepting resignation and not taking the break amount. Remaining time is of 9 months. What to do if I email to tcs they will not accepting me without reliving letter. Please guide me.

Any engineering managers in the house. How do i progress from system engineer to engineering manager

Thoughts on why A&E and Mother both opened Berlin offices this year? Is it due to more business in the mainland or client budgets leaving the UK?

Trump is on 🔥 today. Clearly, he feel's cornered and needs to make up lost ground, inb4 MAGA is terrified

The actions he's taking are such a breathe of fresh air. If he keeps this up, he'll see a big swing in #s. I bet big on him in 2016, but sat sidelines this year because I felt biased and doubted myself. If this vigorous attitude sustains for a week, I'm gonna place a bet while the odds are good.

Hows work culture in BOA domain in TCS?

Thoughts on nepotism babies becoming successful A-listers? Is it because of their talent or mostly due to their connections? Can someone share some talented examples?

What questions do you ask a VP or c-suite in the final rounds?

1. I have 7 YOE with 13.3 CTC in the security domain, looking to understand how much I can negotiate in EY GDS.

2. What's the equivalent position in EY GDS for a Senior Consultant role in Deloitte.

Where to raise separation in EY?

Thinking about joining TSG coming from an audit supervisor at mid tier. What’s work exactly do you do for your clients? Any finance work? I’m trying to figure out what exactly I will be doing if I join

Anyone still working from home? What do you do to break up the monotony of day?

What case practice coaching company/site would you recommend for people in tech ?

Tech topic..
What is meant by sterling integrator? What is the work we will get in that ? As I am fresher I got a project in caterpillar client with demand skill as sterling integrator....please help me in this

What would be the living cost in singapore for a couple? Pls suggest.. getting 20 lpa in india.. singapore offer is 7.5k per month contractor job.

Would you say summaries are as effective for self help books like "the subtle art of giving a fk" and other similar books? I feel the books themselves ramble on too much on a side story only to tell a point that could be summed up in a couple sentences.
Or am I just not getting good book recommendations for growth/development on mental well being and productivity

I have a flaw - I have this bad habit of wanting to prove that I’m right.

I spend WAY too much time on dating apps.

Everyone else seems to be finding jobs so quickly after being laid off… I’ve been searching for 5 months and keep hitting walls. I’m tired. Depressed. Angry. Sad. I had to start therapy again because it’s all too much and is affecting my ability to function day-to-day. I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. How are people able to do this?

I guess I need help. Always cum in 20-30 seconds. Wifey isn’t pleased. Where do I start to get help?

Mid-twenties and just feel so lost 😞

What’s the best blackfriday/cyber monday deal you came across?

How much should I accept from a sugar daddy on a weekly basis? No physical touch just a companionship model.

Heard anywhere from 1-2k a week to 5-6k a week.

My gf just told me I’m not even high maintenance. Idk why, but I’m slightly offended. 🙁

Confession: EVERY TIME I go to any restroom I am afraid I will find a D3@d b0dy!

Funny how now we put Confession:----- lol

Why do some guys date a woman for years, they break up and he marries another after dating only for a short time

My career goal isn’t to make it to MBB or a unicorn or FAANG. It’s to feel fulfilled and challenged as I progress. I can’t be the only one that isn’t title or company chasing.

Why do people go to the gym in pairs? You’re not doing the same workout. You’re just gossiping and hogging the equipment. Isn’t it easier to do your own separate workouts and then go to the café to talk about your stuff later?

How do you cope with loving someone who’s in love with someone else? It’s slowly breaking me down & I don’t really have anyone that I can talk to. Any words of encouragement or previous experiences with this is appreciated. Thanks ❤️

I have the biggest crush on my wife right now. Married 7 years, together for 15 plus. Went through a couple years of some staleness after kids and then it hit me like a ton of bricks how lucky I am. It’s like being a teenager again. I can’t stop thinking about her and I can’t keep my hands off of her when I get home.