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Two years ago, I had an affair with a married man, a partner at a big 4 who was really sweet (and obviously toxic). Met at a bar in April … it was off and on until November (plus one night in December that ended very badly). I was in an awful place mentally and emotionally in my life, and sort of just blew up my life. I even quit my job (no, we didn’t work together), no notice, couldn’t get out of bed…..

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….. I packed my bags and spent a month with my best friend and her family (husband, small kids) in suburbia. It saved me. Though I never told them about the affair. They figured it was work exhaustion (I had little WLB) and depression and partying too much.

We texted once very cordially about a month or two into the pandemic. And it sounded like his marriage was in a good place.

I still think about him sometimes. There was a time in that very fu**** dark place when I thought I was falling in love with him. Especially when he drunkenly told me he was falling for me.

What a mess that was… what a mess I was.

How’s that for an actual confession?

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Did you know he was married when it started? What made you do it after you found out? Did you ever feel guilt? Do you regret it?

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Yes. He was wearing a ring. He always wore it.

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Thank you for confessing. And I’m glad you came through it, and doing better. It might still be risky to communicate and get flashbacks or trigger things, so you’re better off without it

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Is this really an anomaly ?

Monogamy may be unnatural but society regards it as normal… it’s regarded as the rule. Hence, anomaly.

And I never said I felt guilt…

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