Users 40y/o+ of fishbowl - did you make good decisions at 23-25? I’m ready to aggressively abandon my parents house due to dysfunction. Am I just being a whiny kid or do I have real agency now?

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On the whole I made good decisions with the information I had.

Most of the things I think about doing differently are related to what I know now about building a career and how the business world works. Nothing major, and nothing I regret.

I also lived in aggressive party lifestyle about that time, and there are some choices I could have made differently. More than a couple nights I should have just gone home.

With regards to living independently, I definitely was able to make the right decisions. Move back in with my parents for a couple months once or twice during that period, and it definitely didn't work. Left again as soon as possible.

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I left home at 16 si by the time I was your age I was already through school and a parent. I had my child at 22.

Decisions I made were based on what was best for my family.

Looking back I wish I had better information on career decisions and planning for retirement. Maybe gotten married or at least had a relationship that was sufficient to say I had a great love.

Leaving home can only help you grow as an individual. Forces you to care for yourself and prepares you to care for others. However, it it a financial burden. Choose wisely and good luck.

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Why wouldn’t you have real agency? You are an adult.

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After college, I never went back.
Made bad decisions which cause high interest credit card debt. I eventually paid off right before my 30th - was a goal of mine, but still have no regrets.

Yes. Left my very dysfunctional parents at 18 and never looked back.

You’re an adult and you can support yourself. No reason you can’t leave. I don’t get how this is even a question

Parents these days don’t condition children to make big boy decisions.

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