Venting... going to a top 10 Ivy League mba at 26 and parents still don’t see me as successful/driven/hardworking.. hedonic treadmill I guess.. keep grinding

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Tuck is a good school. You shouldn’t be driven by the expectations your parents set, but by what matters most to you and what you inherently want to achieve. You should read Clayton Christensen’s book “how you’ll measure your life” - I went through something similar and it was life changing

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Cornell is barely T15

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I went from a community college to an unranked university to a T15 MBA. Admittedly I will be 30 by the time I graduate but still the effort was monumental. my parents don’t think much of that either. Pretty sure that you had to put more effort in your school years. T10 undergrad is an incredible achievement

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Cheers to you as well! That’s an incredible achievement on your part as well!

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I applied last year and got into some great schools, but was waitlisted at Stanford. That seemed to be the only one my mom cared about. I’m starting at Wharton next month and my parents have congratulated me but it seems like they don’t see it as the accomplishment it is. She’s still hoping Stanford let’s me in off the waitlist

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Geez, you’re an adult. Do it for yourself and not for your Mother’s approval. You’re not in High School anymore.

Could also be Columbia, Harvard, Penn technically 👀

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And my parents would have a different opinion...

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That’s a proud achievement! Well done OP! Very happy for you :)
Sometimes parents’ expectations can be never ending, even when you become Bill Gates they will still ask why are you not Elon Musk yet. The only way out is in - Stop deriving your value from others’ expectation. Know your own worth and reaffirm it.

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Well, are you driven and hardworking?

Sometimes people are mad when they also know they didn’t try hard enough. Whereas those that did their best know it and don’t care what others think.

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Aw sweetheart, I just want to hug you and tell you that you are great.

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Yay! Thank you! 🐥

And what do your parents do exactly

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Entrepreneurs

Are we sure it’s not Yale SOM?

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They said top 10…

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I assume if it was Harvard, Penn, or Columbia then they would had just said that instead of saying “Ivy League school”

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Lol I get why you are venting. Just reading this pissed me off lol

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Tuck is a great school. Your parents should be proud

Rather than “keep grinding”, I’d suggest ~keep working on not deriving your sense of worth from external validation

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