Venting- I’m 5 weeks pregnant. All my clothes feel awful. Bloated out of my mind. Emotional. Want to be alone but work “summit” is happening. I’m anxious for it to stick. Can’t talk about it. 😫😫😫😫

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Sprained ankle is easy to fake 🙃 But if you don't want to lie, maybe say you some personal/medical issues that mean you have to take a break from running? And the early stage is hard -- when all you're thinking about is being pregnant, but you can't talk about it. If there is one person close to you that you trust, and could relate (has been pregnant before), I would tell them. It was positive for me to have someone at work to talk to about it, and "get" it.

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Seconding finding someone you trust to confide in even if it’s super early. Helps take the load off, and in my case she even covered for me in little ways, like getting me a seltzer that looked exactly like a G&T at a work event before anyone had a chance to ask any questions.

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Oh and I’m on the running team here with a 10k coming up and am not allowed to run yet. How do I address not participating?

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Same here! I feel you! First few months are rough but you’ll get through it.

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Thank you! We’ve had a bunch of happy hours and shit lately and I’m usually early to the bar so I keep getting called out 🤦🏻‍♀️

The first trimester is the hardest and loneliest for so many reasons. When at happy hours, try to get a can of beer. No one can see how much or little you've drank or that you've been nursing it all night :)

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