Very likely to be single again at 34 and absolutely terrified (female here).

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Why terrified?

I got divorced at 42 (also female) and had temporary terrified issues too, but with the help of a good therapist, I turned it into an opportunity to rediscover myself, think about what I really wanted personally and professionally, invested time in both new and old hobbies, spent time with friends.

After 3 years finally stepped back into dating pool. That was awful, honestly. But after a year met the man who I can only describe as my soul mate and learned what it meant to really love someone as a “soul mate”.

It was a painful divorce process but it turned out better than I had hoped/expected.

Be strong! While it may hurt now, turn your eye to redefining your future !

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I’m so happy for you D1 ❤️

That’s an amazing story. Best of luck OP! You can do it too!

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Hi OP, agree with others, if he is not the right person for you. But love is worth fighting for, try to make it work. Réinvente yourselves as a couple, be curious about each other, try to see a therapist if this is necessary but don’t give up until you tried everything!

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OP, Il vaut mieux etre seul que mal accompagné

Not saying it is easy or ignoring the concerns but I personally have met my wife when she was 35. My colleagues just got remarried and she is 38 and I can give u many many examples...
Most European now a days engage in their 30s.
You have a good job working for a great company (Kind of, it could have been Deloitte or our Firm... but still OK) and you will be fine

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The world is what you make of it. You’re single at 34, I didn’t graduate college till 25. You’re a beautiful soul and absolutely worth it, don’t let anyone - even yourself, put you down for being who you are and where you are at in life.

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Completely ok to be scared. Makes total sense - just understand that emotions are a lot like the weather - come and go unpredictability. Lean on friends, reach out, let people know if you are struggling and need company. You’ve got this :)

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Happy to be a sounding board and try to help

Thanks for sharing D1

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