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Very single and don’t have anyone to go to the holiday party with. Fairly new to firm and don’t know anyone in the office. Should I go solo or find a random date?

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The choice is yours, but… I’m friends with an associate partner who’s been at McKinsey for 5+ years. Their first Christmas at the Firm, they invited a tinder date (whom they never saw again) to join them at the holiday party. To this day, people still ask this AP about how [tinder date’s name] is doing :)

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I have never been at a firm event where people would not be immediately striking a conversation with each other. I am on the introvert side and have been “alone” at the events but always had a good experience. Much better than at any non Kearney event. There is probably a decent amount of people who are in your shoes (new, did not bring a partner) so you should be able to connect. Otherwise just walk to people and introduce yourself, nothing bad will happen.

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Join Deloitte, this way you aren't even given the option of bringing a +1

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Phoenix allows a +1

Go solo, but find another solo colleague or two and plan to meet up for a drink beforehand so you don’t have to walk in by yourself (that’s the hardest part, imo).

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@OP ask the connections you have through your project if they know people in your office, and then reach out. That way you have your mutual connection to talk about and a friend-referral trust bonus to start.

I’m dismayed to see ppl asking to avoid it. If you are new to a company started in virtual or COVID mode, how else would you build that connection or rapport with others. Especially in consulting when network matters. How would you then build relationships with clients? A lot of things are uncomfortable doesn’t mean one avoids it. Just learns how to handle it.

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D3- I’m with you. This is how you can meet new people.

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Take a friend. Why does it always have to be a “date”?

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Take a friend, guy or girl, and enjoy the food and drinks. The parties are so big so it’ll just give you someone fun to hangout with.

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Yep, don’t feel like you need a date. Bring anyone you have fun with. He’ll bring a parent. Me and the wife went pre-Covid and I didn’t know a soul. We had a blast just running around taking pics, eating, doing the events. Made some small talk with peeps as we felt like it. Go and enjoy! BTW, going on my 3rd year and I still probably won’t know anyone this year 😂

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Take a fishbowler and share the stories afterwards

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I’m down if it’s in NYC

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In LA too. You can DM me and hangout with my crew :)

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Personal rule: If you don’t want your coworkers to ask how your your date is doing a year from now, go solo

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Work parties single are better anyway. You can mingle with your coworkers at your pace and not worry about your partner having a good time or introducing them a million times, nor have to worry about an unknown quantity date embarrassing you. Go solo, meet up with other single colleagues, and enjoy!!

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I always brought the same outgoing friend that loved the events and got to know folks. Even brought them when I had an actual boyfriend because they loved it and my bf dreaded it 😂

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“He is just a friend” 😂

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Might be worth bringing a date since you don’t know anybody. Or just skip it entirely lol

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Depends on the firm/location/vertical at your firm I suppose. Our holiday parties are massive and aren’t worth it unless you already know people imo

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I would probably go solo, it’s too hard to focus on meeting new people and managing a date at the same time. That said, it might be smart to ask around about what other people are planning. If you’re going to be the only solo one it might be best to ask a friend to accompany you

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Just go with a friend, parties are too big for anyone else to care

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Gay here. Happy to be your straight-acting date!

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I’ve taken a bestie to a holiday party before!

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This. Did it two years in a row. Worked out great.

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Absolutely go and ask one of your colleagues to introduce you to people

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Take a friend! I’ve been with my husband for most of my career and have taken a friend to work events instead of him multiple times. Sometimes due to conflicts, other times because I know the friend will enjoy the event more than he will. Regardless, it’s a +1 not a mandatory spouse/SO invite

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Hire a date. You make good money. Splurge a little so others have something good to look at.

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Go solo with an open mind!! You’d be surprised the connections you make. Have fun!

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Which office ? Take a friend…

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