Very specific ask- anyone here lose a parent while single/eventually end up in a fulfilling relationship?

The one year anniversary of my dad's death is creeping up and I keep feeling like no one will ever be able and willing to hold space for my grief. I just want to believe that's not true, maybe by hearing evidence that it's possible.

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My mother lost her mother in her mid 20’s. Shortly after she met my father, and felt that he was sent to her by her mother. I hope that your father will send someone special for you when the time is right.

I hope that you give yourself the time you need to grieve and find peace in the memories of your father. ❤️

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My husband lost his father in 2014. He met me in 2016 and we've been married for three years now. So yes, he was single during the loss and met me not too long after. We are very happy in the relationship and are welcoming our first baby in 2021 :)
I'm sorry for your loss OP! Hugs 🤗

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I lost my father when I was 15 unexpectedly and did not handle it well for many, many years. Met my now husband at 23 and it was a hard hill for him to climb to learn how/why some of my behavior was actually me lashing out or grieving - ESPECIALLY around the time of his birthday/death anniversary. But.. he knew my pain was behind some of my not so nice/complicated behavior and allowed me space to grow and supported me. Have faith, it is possible!

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I lost my mom unexpectedly at 16. I was worried for a long time that any new relationships (including friendships) would be missing something or they wouldn’t really “know” me. Honestly some people have handled knowing that part of me better than others, but it has helped me identify the people who will make the space to cry or talk or share a memory or just smile when I mention I made one of my mom’s old recipes. I’m in a 2 year relationship now and feel very loved and supported

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