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wanted to share this messed up situation I was in: was casually dating a person for 2 months and they told me they were engaged for two years before (which I didn’t really care). But the important piece of the information they left out was the fact that the person they were engaged to is literally their current roommate (which I have met many times and brought them snacks). Now I feel really lied to and silly. I was really trying to be a genuine person and supported them when their dog passed. 🥴

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That's... yeah, not even sure how to describe it. I get that they may have a lease or mortgage together and trying to work it out without breaking bank, but at least being upfront about it is the minimum.

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I was so confused with the gender neutral "they" "which" "them" throughout this post, trying to visualize the story and you finally revealed the gender on the last post 😂 If it was two women, I can understand if they still lived together after their breakup.

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Agree with C1, gender doesn't come into it here. And OP shouldn't have to reveal genders to get sound advice

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I guess what I’m trying to say is I was being very genuine about my feelings but they clearly did not respect me enough to reciprocate that: I.e intentionally leaving out this information. (I asked about it before they tried to deflect and deny)

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Badass - here’s to ya 🥃🥃

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I’m in this situation - but we aren’t dating until we have both moved out - we decided it was only fair. I feel like they should have been honest about it - sorry you are going through this.

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We’re they afraid you’d scoot if they told you that after the first date? Or maybe they wanted to find the right time and it got awkward. How did they treat that into when they told you? If they treated it delicately and like it was a big thing that they felt bad about and didn’t really know how to pull off the bandaid, I would probably get that. Hopefully they’re trying to leave the arrangement at least??

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OP - don’t pass go, don’t collect $200, don’t stop to say “hi bye kiss my ass.” That’s ballsy to think you’re not smart enough to figure this out. Peace out and don’t say a word 🖕🏻- oughta be entertaining to see how long it takes their dumbasses put 2 and 2 together, if they even do.

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Sounds like a terrible situation but one thing I’ll mention is that at least they weren’t hiding the person and you met them etc. If there aren’t any other red flags and everything vibes well with that other person i wouldn’t completely write them off

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Why are they still living together?!? 🧐

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They were best friends alright

Did they feel too awkward to tell you? What else will they feel too awkward about? Dating = communicating. They aren’t doing it well. 😵‍💫

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That’s a HUGE red flag. Definitely breakup.

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He’s not a player he just… lives with his ex fiancé

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Yikes. That is tough.

My friend got led on by a woman who's married (not very happily) with a kid. Sounds like they may have been using you to put pressure on this roommate/ex?

Yeah. Shady. I imagine if I break up with my so right now but still friendly enough to live on the same roof, there would still be some sexual tension around. All it would take for us to wake up in the same bad again would be the two of us drinking a little too much. I’d stay away. Specially because of the lie.

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