Was seeing this guy back in Oct but I broke it off bc he was “too nice” and wanted something serious too quickly. Now tbh I wonder if the decision was premature. Should I contact him again?

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Yes, but only if you’re sure that you’re interested in something serious as well. Don’t jerk the poor guy around by reaching out to him, and then ending things when you get cold feet shortly after.

If you’re still wondering / not sure you want something serious, then leave him be. If you now know you want something serious, reach out, but be prepared for him to say he is no longer interested.

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Think about why him wanting to get serious bothered you in the first place before reaching out.
Sounds like you weren’t sure you liked him or not. Some people don’t like nice guys and that’s ok!
Feeling things are moving too fast could have several meanings: that you think you can do better than him, you have a fear of commitment, there’s a flaw or quirk of his that bothers you, etc etc

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No, you’re wondering because it is cuffing season.

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Actually I was really bothered by that Pwc1! By the fact that I’m so used to dating jerks that it felt weird to finally date a nice guy and thought he was weird for saying nice things to me...but sometimes too much of a good thing is also annoying hahahah

Sounds like what I did to Matt. Literally agree with everything that A1 said.

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Give it a shot. You have nothing to lose. It’s quite likely he has moved on if he’s the nice guy you say he is. There’s not enough of them around and the next discerning guy would have swooped him. Reality is: most guys end up with who they deserve, not who they want.

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No. Let him go do his thing vs pull and push and pull and push. Hard on the other guy. No second chances in life. My experience at least.

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I agree! Don’t reach out to him unless you’re 10000% sure you want him back.
I was on the receiving end of this and it sucks to be jerked around, getting your hopes up for nothing 😢

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Yes

Y’all are spot on! Even you IBM1... I think the cold does make me miss our cuddle session. I’m still not exactly sure if I want anything as serious as he does, not yet at least. But maybe it’s worth reaching back out and see if he’d be willing to give us a second chance, and see where things could go. Then again, I wonder if I miss him or the idea of him... ugh still so much to sort out emotionally...it might be a bad idea to suck him back into something that I’m not even sure I’m ready for. I’ll need some time to think it through before I decide. But thank you all for your advice!

Side question: do y’all believe in “fate” like if two people are meant to find each other, life will make it happen somehow? Or do you believe in fighting for your love and winning them over? Would love to hear personal stories too if possible, one way or another, for inspiration! ❤️

Definitely figure out what you want, because emotional maturity (I think) means looking beyond trivial things like ‘niceness’ - maybe you’re not ready for him.

Fate...not exactly. I think you’re ready for love at random times and whoever you meet/are with then is who you fall for.

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Why don’t you aim for a relationship with someone that lasts a year? Literally, start there as a goal. “Can I make it a year with this person?” If you make it, great. If not, you know you’re not ready for something long term

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I am doing a business trip to her location for a week, she had asked to meet.

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