{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Was sitting on hotel patio waiting for food. Nicely asked a women to not smoke as it says no smoking. She freaks out calling me an asshole etc. 'If I was nice I would just move'. Irony", "post_id": "59b1f8a77b412b0017ca9d81", "reply_count": 51, "vote_count": 3, "bowl_id": "552d1d24dc1c586b09d2d051", "bowl_name": "Consulting", "feed_type": "crowd" }

Was sitting on hotel patio waiting for food. Nicely asked a women to not smoke as it says no smoking. She freaks out calling me an asshole etc. 'If I was nice I would just move'. Irony

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at
Highlighted IconHIGHLIGHTED

Bringing that fact up doesn't make you more right. You just wanted to say it to show people you were arguing with an older woman. It's mean spirited, you were trying to gather more support by painting her in demeaning ways. You can always take the high road and stay focused on the matter (smoking).

I'm not having a midlife crisis, thank you for being concerned. I just pointed out that you are being a dbag for using things to sustain your argument when you didn't need to say it. How would you feel if I replaced the "I don't argue with 40 yo women" with "I don't argue with millennial brats"?

Recent IconRecent

You should have said those exact words to deescalate the situation.

Its been scientifically proven that telling a 30-70 year old woman that "you don't argue with 40 year old women" will deescalate a situation approximately 0% of the time.

like

Lemme guess. New York?

like

Unfortunately obvious and reasonable don't really exist here in the US these days...

like

Even if OP was mean spirited (and I don't think he was), he doesn't deserve smoke in his lungs while he eats in a designated no smoking area.

like

D3, Starting to wonder if you've been that woman in similar situations. We all HATE stereotypes but how long did it take most of us to relate to OP's experience because we've been in his shoes sitting near some nasty person who doesn't care about anyone else in the world (or at least is acting like it). And 40 years old is a demographic fact, not something open to interpretation, potentially offensive. or in the grey.

like

No apology necessary...

like

Yeah I mean all people like that want is for it to effect you. The hotel guy that made her move came back and was just like, dude I can't believe how much patience you had to just sit there while she went off.

like

Yep NYC. It's crazy how much it got to here, and how much worse she got when she realized her calling me names had no effect... I don't argue with 40 year old women

like

Rotfl P2

like

I've recently learned not to take these people and behaviors seriously. Not good for my mental health

like

How many points?

like

Dude D3 you are jumping through some hoops man. I brought up her age because I wasn't asking a child. She could have been 28 or 35 or 45. The point is she's an adult. I don't get why you're so triggered.

like

Yeah I don't argue with grown people... honestly I have no idea why you're so triggered. She was a 40 year old woman. You seem as easily upset at her...

like

A teenager was sitting next to me on the train and playing his music so loud that I could not hear my wife who was sitting right next to me. Does that offend you in a similar way, D3? It's just painting a picture.

like

So much for not arguing with 40 year olds.

like

Seriously. This post has become a microcosm of the very issue he brought up.

like

The people getting bent out of shape over OP giving context to an asshole's age are absurd. Age is absolutely relevant. The person I am at 32 is worlds different than the person I was at 22.

"Age is just a number". Right. Ok. Keep telling yourself that.

like

D3 she had grey hair and wrinkles... mean spirited? It's a fact

like

Jesus D3 have your midlife crisis on a motorcycle, not FB

like

D3 I stated her age as it provided context. Same as saying it was a teenager would provide context as you expect different behavior from different age cohorts...

like

Related Posts

Feel like American Airlines is going to chapter 11 any day now... what will happen to points?

like

My husband and I had a fall out with his parents a few weeks ago. They said some pretty nasty things to him regarding him not wanting to go to his brother’s wedding during a pandemic and his mom uninvited me from the shower. He still wants them to come visit our daughter social distancing of course because they still travel everywhere. I am on the fence because I am still bitter about how they have treated him and me regarding this virus and how we have done everything we can to keep safe...

like

I’ve booked a flight from India to Chicago (august 2021) with layover in France. Is layover in Europe still restricted for entry in US? I tried searching online and there are many other conditions - so checking if anyone has recently travelled or has any relevant information. Thank you!!

like

Anyone that works at Anthem or United Health Group able to tell me how or what they’re looking for in a therapy reviewer. I’ve applied to numerous positions… and nothing. I’ve even kept ATS in mind but haven’t gotten much of a response.

like

Any avid fishermen or hunters on here? Where/when/how do you fulfill your want to do these things? Ever alt travel to check new locations for these hobbies?

like

Any way at all to get Amex MR to United or American? Trying to book two flights that aren't the correct ticket code to show up through partners (like air Canada and Ethiad)

like

For MBB NYC offices, are they forcing ppl to come into office for local projects? Also how often you travel now on projects?

like

What’s better for cashback or travel credit chase saphire or Amex platinum?

like

So how are people getting free delta tumi backbags... been seeing that on my IG newsfeed

like

Hey! Considering negotiating my pay after 1 year of CT experience. In Florida my base is $29/hr. How much of a raise should I ask for (if they don’t automatically give one)? And should I wait to be a travel tech with another year of experience?

like

Hiring entry level healthcare it consultants. Lots of travel, lots of paid training.

Ideally has a background in healthcare technology (eg a degree in healthcare administration)

Fortune 100 tech company

UNITED✈️. I have 6 GPUs and 3RPUs expiring on 1/31. Please post your burner if you'd like these. Thanks!

like

Just boarded the first flight of an overseas itinerary for a work trip. I’m in Biz Class wearing a Run-DMC t-shirt, cargo shorts, and some Js.

Oh, the looks that I’m getting from folks... LOL!!!

likefunnyuplifting

So low key freaking out here. I have an appointment to drop off my documents for my H1B restamping in Mumbai and as I was going thru te checklist I saw a new document called the National Interest Exemption. Does anybody know if I need to get this document from Deloitte? I’m in no hurry to travel back to the US / there is no current biz need since I am working from India but I’m concerned they might turn me away at the consulate. Any guidance or experience with this is appreciated.

like

Any recs for hotels and activities in Cancun and Tulum? I'm ambassador on Marriott, but cash seems to be way cheaper for hotels in Cancun and Tulum doesn't have Marriott properties.

like

Flying out of JFK is a nightmare right now! First the incoming flight was delayed and then sitting at runway for more than 2 hours ! FML 😪 not even an upgraded seat is worth it

like

Hi all, can anyone explain about the reimbursement of travel cost and initial accomadation policy in wipro for new joiners??

Have a Marriott category 1-5 coupon, is there anywhere in upper state New York I can spend it?

like

Did anyone new join here from the other thread that was planning group alt travel.

like

How many of you take a longer route with connections to fly your preferred airline, vs. flying direct on a short flight on a non-preferred airline?

like

Additional Posts in Consulting

Can anyone please share me the CTC to be expected from Walmart for SDE 2 IN 2 role

#Walmart

like

Hi All,

Skill set: SAP BASIS HANA consultant
YOE: 10.4 years
NP : less than 10 days
Offer in hand: HCL 18.5 lpa || NTT data 20 LPA (shifts) || LTI 19 LPA and 1 lakh JB
I want to show counter offer of 20 lpa to LTI and ask for 20% hike that is 24 lpa. Will LTI give that kind of hike ? Please share your advice on this. and also which company to join.

@HCL @NTT data

@HCL

like

Hi Fishes,
My interview is schedule for Bigdata developer (Spark and Scala) position in JP
Morgan.It is coding round so What kind of questions will be in coding round or peer programming round?
Please help me so will brush up the things.

like

For Corp dev interviews, will there be modeling tests? IE merger models, three statement, dcf, etc

like
like

On days when I don’t have a full workload, it’s very (I think way too) easy for me to blow off the entire day either reading news/social media and doing other things not relevant to work. I also have a habit of wanting to focus on anything but what I need to get done. Can anyone relate to either or both of these and possibly a sign of ADD/ADHD? I have an appt with my primary care doc next week but been curious about this tendency of mine for awhile.

like

Has anyone had adverse reaction to the J&J vaccine?

like

Been a digital EP for 5+ years. Looking at a Sr. Producer freelance gig. LA. Is $4-5K/week still realistic these days?

like

Has anyone taken a class at the Chicago industrial arts center? I’m looking to take a woodworking class on the north side. Any other studio recommendations would be great!

like

Is it just me or are the dating apps starting to heat up? Hinge be on fire rn. 26M btw.

likefunny

S&T bonuses here in format...

Bank: (BB/MM/boutique)
Group: (rates sales, eq derivs trader, IG, etc.)
Level: (A1, A2, A3, As0, As1, As2, etc.)
Base (2019):
Bonus:

Will post stats when get them

like

Im helping my spouse to get back to work after being unemployed since pandemic and while waiting for permanent residency. Any recommendations how my spouse can easily get back to work? My spouse applied several times since June and had no success. Thank you for your advices.

like

Hi Guys, Please help in which one to select from the following, I'm really confused

Eli Lilly and Company - X CTC (~13% variable) + 2 lac joining bonus, location Bangalore

Thoughtworks - X CTC (including 1.5L other benefits) + 1 lac joining bonus, location Pune

Gap Inc. - X+1 CTC(~8% variable) + 2 lac joining bonus, location Hyderabad

Priority is learning and wlb
Notice remaining- 1+ month
YOE- 2 yr Skills- Node.js, Vue.js, AWS

like

Any shops hiring ADs at the moment? Either in Chicago or remote?

like

Does Accenture blacklist if we accept offer letter but later on inform that not joining ?

like

Am not new to consulting but my reviews and work product is always average. Somehow because of this am always struggling and have anxiety about being laid off every day. I never had a good mentor /tea

like
like
like

Hello ,

Can anyone tell what is the level of software engineer in CTS Associate or senior Associate , and how's the WLB in cognizant?

like

Additional Posts (overall)

I work at a small startup and a bunch of colleagues (around 30% of the company) got laid off today. I have a bit of survivors guilt. Should I contact these colleagues? Is it inappropriate this soon?..

like

Alvarez & Marsal does A&M do sign on bonuses for Directors in CPI? How much should i ask for? 8 YOE. Houston

like

Favorite Webex/Zoom fail?

like

Best profession for a consultant’s SO? Mine’s software engineer at FAANG and life’s good. She helps with tech and I just BS around.

likefunnyhelpful

Any avid fishermen or hunters on here? Where/when/how do you fulfill your want to do these things? Ever alt travel to check new locations for these hobbies?

like

Do you think a client threatening to pull a portion of a deliverable to a different firm is enough to contact a principal while they're on vacation?

like

Is BBBY Stock going to drop significantly?

like

Are MBB and Boutiques doing this massive hiring blitz with double referral bonus etc like the big 4 are? Or did they not fire all their people last fall?

like

I’m relocating to Tampa, FL in august. Office is located near the airport (TPA). Partner will be attending USF. Rental budget around $1400 monthly. Any suggestions on areas/neighborhoods that are best to live in and those to avoid?

like

I was complaining about my project to my mentors/staffed and planting the seed that I wanted to get off it as soon as a better project came up (clients are a mess, I’m silo’d from my team, no skills/career development opportunity), but now.. 2 weeks later.. it’s amazing. I don’t do much. Set my own hours. Report to no one. Do I backtrack and stay on this project as long as possible or still roll off for better dev opportunities? (4 YOE)

like

Need to do more squats. Butt is looking a little too mom-ish for my tastes.

like

What's your income and how much do you spend on rent / mortgage + ownership expenses?

How what would be the most you're willing to spend (monthly) on housing?

like

Anyone willing to provide referrals in strategy consulting? Supply Chain and operations roles also welcome. Got recently laid off. Would require visa sponsorship.

like

Anyone got Autonomous working table/ seat? Good or not so good?

like

"Confirming with maintenance if we can fly with our backup system. Will get back to you as we know more." Great. Happy Monday.

like

Anyone in a strategy role at CVS Health willing to chat? Approaching interview and looking to get feedback on culture, types of projects, career trajectory, WLB, comp, etc. Interviewing for director level.

likesmart

Anyone know if Jabian consulting is any good?

likefunny

Is anyone else stoked for the games coming out this fall? I hear "Call of Duty: Civil War 2" and "Military Encroachment Simulator 2021 South China Sea Edition" are gonna be sick. Not as sick as "COVID-19: Global Pandemic Management" was last season though

like

Sugar and sugar substitutes are the most addictive things! I'm usually so health conscious, but a recent bout of eating edibles to curb anxiety has me eating sweets. Now I'm hooked 😁

like

Best portable monitor IYO? Have a HP Elitebook if that matters

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Download Fishbowl to see what others are saying
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the Fishbowl app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.