We are often told, we are not asking the right questions in our early dating phase and break up only with a disappointment. What are the right questions to ask on the date? Can we make a list here?

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I'm a very inquisitive and curious person, so I ask all kinds of questions as I'm getting to know someone (nothing rude, though). But I think the bigger issue is people don't really listen - I mean really listen to both things said and not said. Instead some invent an alternative reality or fantasy, or try to guess what the person really meant by saying or doing one thing or another.

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The only question is the one you should be asking yourself: “what is my gut telling me about this person?”.

A “no” is always a “no”.
A “maybe” is a “no” in disguise.
And a “yes” means, “take it slow and don’t f*ck this one up!”

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Depends which date - I think first date should involve questions of substance, but I’m not sure the deepest ones need to be asked on a first date, if you want to get to know a person in a more organic way. Curious as to everyone’s thoughts on how deep of questions you ask on a first date vs third date, etc. I think context is important to a degree. It’s a fine balance between getting to know someone enjoyably and naturally, and determining compatibility.

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