Well, I’m so busy and anxious that I’m not able to eat during the day, but on the plus side I have abs for the first time since I was 18

Anyone up for speed dating in the comments? 👀 Please no trolling, afterall this is the 30s bowl...
For each of the following describe yourself + the person you're looking for.

1. ASL
2. Something serious/casual
3. Physical description - as detailed or as general as you'd like 🤣
4. Interests/hobbies
5. Personality traits
6. Values
7. Non- negotiables
8. Whatever else....

Let's make some connections!

I was accosted last night at the bar when some guy overheard me telling my date I worked at Apple. Lots of expletives and "go back to where you're from" rhetoric. Do people really feel this way? So far, everyone I've met has been so welcoming.

Any other women up for just sitting outside enjoying the evening by Montrose harbor? I'm 35/F. Maybe it's weird, but j just feel like enjoying the evening, it's nice outside, and winter is coming 😂

I dated someone 15 years older than me and he always lectured me about what did I do wrong. From small things like where to squeeze ketchup on my plate to big things like how to live my life and pivot to a career that his “friends” do so well in right now. Almost everything I did or said he’d follow with some criticism. I ghosted him after another lunch date full of such lectures.

Deeply afraid of being married to someone like the girl in sex/life on Netflix

Poll: single / dating / partnered..? The stresses of the traveling consultant lifestyle and the fickleness of the gay male have made it nearly impossible to date consistently. Do y'all agree?

My date won’t share his playlist with me (I can listen to it but he won’t share it). Just curious, is playlist a big deal to guys? We are both at early 20s and only dated for a week

Hi all,

There is guy living near my place and i find him really attractive. And sometimes I come across him in the gym. But I'm not sure if he likes me or not. How to handle this situation?
Any suggestions?

How many of you do some bicep curls before going out on a date?

34/male /northern VA/white/balding/starting to get a dad bod/im probably single for a reason

Super appealing right?

Which country is good for dating as in where can I get good girls to date outside India? If given an opportunity, which country you would like to move to?

Has anyone ever been in a mostly platonic relationship? I don’t like to label myself much, but I don’t really like intimacy and don’t really like romance. Some people would say I’m asexual/aromantic, but unless that too is a spectrum, I don’t think I fit squarely into that group. As I get older, I’m realizing I’m feeling very lonely. It would be nice to find someone, but have it be platonic (any gender/sex). It’s weird, I know. It’s hard to articulate as well. Can anyone relate? 😭😭

I really miss breeding out one night stands.

Almost said the wrong name in bed yesterday; caught it right at the moment - the low-key panic I felt damn 😳

Is there such a thing as over texting the person you like?

There are too many men out there who think that just because I'm being polite, it's a sign that they should flirt with me while I'm at work. I thought this was 2022, why haven't we as a society gotten past this yet?

Here's an update re the matchmaking as promised - one (potential) match has been made! 😜😄

But not enough profiles to create more matches 🤷🏻‍♀️. There are some great candidates waiting to be matched tho but more submissions are needed.

Who’s around tonight for a fun time? M searching for F

How do you stop obsessing over a new romance?

In my 30s and have dated a lot. I've done casual flings, had a couple serious LTRs, been deeply in love, and had a lot of meaningless, purely physical hookups in my day.

Through all of these, my attachment style has always been secure as a fully realized person. I never needed someone to make me feel whole.

This new woman is completely intoxicating. She was clear: purely casual. It makes me want what I can't have, something more serious with her.

I’m so tired from dating and looking for a serious relationship, so i just browsed the seeking arrangement website 😐

Here's an update re the matchmaking as promised - one (potential) match has been made! 😜😄

But not enough profiles to create more matches 🤷🏻‍♀️. There are some great candidates waiting to be matched tho but more submissions are needed.

Has the overturning of Roe v. Wade significantly impacted anyone's relationships? I lost two friends who were pro-life and on the verge of losing another. Wondering if I'm being too rigid in my perspective or if this is normal in Texas

What do you irrationally and harshly judge people for?

I assume that people who don’t rerack their weights at the gym allow themselves to live in filth and squalor and had their mothers wipe their bums until they were in middle school.

I just came here to vent. Had an interview, I thought it went great. At the end of the interview hiring managers said and I quote “ you set the bar real high” today I received a thank you but no thank you email.
I am so frustrated …

I have been told that networking is crucial to move up in healthcare management. What is the best way to go about networking?

Can anyone at Visa Inc refer me for an open position?. The job number is REF018545W.

@Visa inc

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

Anyone know what other fishbowls are like?

Makes sense, consulting fundamentally changes businesses internally and advertising fundamentally changes them externally, though syncing those two up will be interesting

Senior Creative team salary in London at a big agency? Ideas?

Anyone hear of the firm GHJ? I believe it’s in LA. Thoughts?

Anyone leave Deloitte for Booz Allen? Thoughts or experiences? Utilization and compliance are absolutely doing my head in.

Has anyone gone from being an admin to working in IT ? I have a big interest but not sure where to start. My current company has an IT department that I may be able to look into.

How do I negotiate a later start date? I have offer in hand and am coming from big law but would really like 8 weeks off between jobs because I am burnout and need time to rest. Is 8 weeks excessive?

I’ve been working on making small conversations to strangers as a way to manage my social anxiety and to try to meet people the old-fashioned way, but it’s so nerve-racking. Any tips?

Anyone good marketing books recommendations or online certifications?

Sometimes dealing with judges in Cook County feels like being back in school and dealing with bullies. I’ve grown a tough skin and a mouth that respectfully calls it out (when possible). I know it’s part of the deal. But, I’m so tired of it!
Im guessing it’s like this elsewhere too?

Has anyone used SoFi to pay down credit card debt? I am drowning in interest every month with my BofA card and getting nowhere fast. Would love any advice re: SoFi or paying off credit card debt in general. Thank you!

What is the best legal referral service for leads?

Any tips when leaving a firm? Younger associate <1 year.

Which law school has the best professorship?

I use timers to keep track of my billable hours, but many senior associates and partners have told me that they just estimate their time. What’s the best method? How do you even accurately estimate?

Are new associates in your firm eligible for bonuses in their stump year?

Any advice applying to big banks? For law firms you can send them an email but how do bigger banks do things?

We are starting to prep a big case for a 3 week federal trial. I’ve been an attorney for a year now and my firm has had this case for a while. What are some tips you have for prepping and also that will make my boss choose to take me to the trial? I have been the main associate on the file but other attorneys have done stuff here and there.

I feel like I’m wasting my time waiting on CA bar results 😭, any tips on how I can use this time effectively?

California 🐟 does your vacation payout when you leave your job get taxed at regular wage, or bonus, levels? Does your employer have discretion to choose?

I went through all the stages of interviewing with a firm then they chose not to fill the position. They said internal priorities changed. I saw about 5 months later they posted a similar position. Guess who has another interview!

Watching sports shows talk about "assault" after helmet gate is torture. It makes me regret going to law school.

Anyone else having one of those days where you just can’t seem to do anything right? I’m dropping balls left and right here

Negotiating a settlement. I’m at $10k, opposing counsel is at $20k. My client won’t go higher than $15k. OC has come down to 17.5k and says his client won’t budge from that. Do I offer 12.5k so we can hopefully meet in the middle at 15k? Is that how the settlement game is played? Seems dumb we can’t just say let’s meet in the middle now and be done with this. (I’m a first year, first time negotiating a settlement on my own and I don’t want to screw this up!)

Probably a foolish question: are bonuses based off of raw billable hours or billable hours modified by the partners?

Confused why Wachtell qualifies as BigLaw when they have one (small) office

Big Law Dads: How much time do you usually take off when your wife has a baby? And do you actually get to take off, or do you just end up working from home half the time? My wife is due Mid-December, and I’m staffed on 4 M&A deals trying to close by year end, so it’s not looking promising.

So who else here is experiencing plummeting billable hours and exponential weight gain since this whole WFH thing started? Bought snacks for 30 days, finished in 48 hours.

How do you recommend dealing with a partner senior to you trying to do anything possible to push you out, force you to quit, or get you fired for years? Owner knows my abilities and likes me (contd)

Has anyone taken  ACAMS Certified Global Sanctions Specialist (CGSS)? Any comments/ reviews? How has it enhanced your employability? Why did you take the CGSS?