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Well my mother has arrived.. in other words, here come the announcements of every insecurity and failure of my life to anyone willing to listen to her. Kill me now please.

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I 100% agree. Every single person who has heard that story used the same words. It was one of the most f'd up experiences of my life. I am never stepping foot in that cabin again. They're coming to see us this Christmas (3 days) and will be staying in a hotel. If you can't tell, the dad is kind of crazy so I'm not sure that he'll be able to handle the three days in the hotel. We'll see what happens next Christmas. We don't have kids yet, but after last Christmas, I think that they know that seeing their grandchildren is on the line. It was straight-up abusive. Oh yeah, and apparently part of why the blanket was taken from us was because we arrived later than the dad had wanted. We were driving through I-95 East Coast traffic in the rain on Christmas Eve. My husband had a bad cold and I had previously had surgery a few days earlier, but we still made the eleven hour drive and that is how we were treated. They can go pound salt! (Your parents too!)

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So many years of that.... I went thru the same. Finally realized my mother is sooooooooo jealous of what I made of myself. She said these things to others and was snarky to me because she was angry I did it in my own. I was/am very independent. She sees herself as the grande dame, the matriarch, the one everyone needs and everyone turns to for advice. Once I realized that, I was able to simply roll my eyes and ignore her. Bonus- it made her even angrier. People started seeing HER as insecure and saw me as someone who pushed past her failures and achieved. Try it this year. Just roll your eyes and ignore her. Walk away. Say, " yep, that's what happened 10 years ago and I was strong enough to learn from it". You got this!

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My parents invited me and my three siblings over for the week. We arrive only to find out that they got rid of all the beds except for theirs, and only thought to buy one air mattress.

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This is what alcohol is for

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I am a successful adult. My dysfunctional parents somehow made me who I am today. I can make it through this week. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

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I once read that a mother's voice becomes the child's inner voice... in case you too hate yourself, thought I'd help you point out who to thank.

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Update: found a red eye flight. Using my points and getting the fuck out of here

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Update- my brother switched his air mattress with my parents real mattress 😂😂 we are all over 25.

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I avoid my family

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Last Christmas, my in-laws wouldn't let me sleep with a comforter because they thought that I would drool on it. They live in an uninsulated wooden cabin in the mountains with broken space heaters from the 70s. We had to sleep with a contraband blanket that my husband found in his closet. They literally took our comforter before we arrived and kept it in their room. There was not a record of either of us drooling but just the mere fear of us drooling. You wonder why we won't be visiting them this Thanksgiving!

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"I am a well-educated, highly accomplished person who has a secure income and a career that many would envy. I am a person with strong values, a sense of purpose, and the independence to make decisions according to those values and sense of purpose. I am not perfect, but nobody is perfect. I have failed before, but my failures have taught me important lessons and have built my sense of resolve. I can always do better in life, but I choose to be proud of myself and confident in my abilities." - your better half

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Last year my mother came for thanksgiving (she has quite the taste for theatrics and being the center of attention). So my sister and I started drinking mimosas in the morning and graduated to wine for the afternoon. At the end of the day my mother comments "I've never seen you drink so much" my response: "but we've never gotten along better right?" Thank god for 🍷

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Honestly, my mom has passed away and I miss her dearly, but I do not miss this. She was the same- pointing everything out to everyone, non-stop criticism

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Seriously no one has a good loving family? My mother is awesome and caring. And I wish I could spend more time with her.

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Funny thing- I hoard my points for this exact reason. Screw vacation- you never know when you might need them to escape your family

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Your post reminded me of Jack Donaghy, OP 😉

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I'm picturing SC 1 sleeping in some My Little Pony sleeping bag on the floor next to his/her siblings

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This is turning into a highly entertaining thread. Misery really is nicer with company.

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I hate the holidays because it's an obligation, not a joy. :(

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*feel bad for you for having such shitty families

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I have an amazing family in law. They taught me what a family could really be. What kind of parent I want to be. I adore them. So while my own family is crappy, I am fortunate, and thankful, to have my in laws.

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