Went on a date last Sunday, I really liked the person and want to make things work but I feel I am putting too much effort to continue it. He seems interested in me but on and off, he gives me mixed vibes from his side what should I do shall I wait (cold messaging) or ask him directly I am scared of loosing him. Dating guys is new to both of us. He mentioned he needs some time to figure but it's effecting me the most maybe because I feel I am already attached naturally Any thoughts would help 🥺

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Following because I think others will have better things to say.

But I will say that if you’re new to this and feeling this strongly, you’re likely to feel this way again in the future. So no matter what happens, as much as it sucks, you’re going to have some more great feels to come.

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Makes sense thank you for taking time and commenting.
I am literally in the same feeling from past two days 🥺 True, I might feel the same again but how do I stop thinking in that way. If I try to restrict my natural feeling it feels like I am not being myself but I couldn't fake it to impress someone cuz I know it eventually wont work

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When someone is genuinely interested in you, they will be consistent and leave you without doubts.
If he needs time to figure this out, give it to him.
You deserve clarity and someone who clearly wants to make it work with you.
Regardless of your initial feelings, try not to get attached to someone who doesn’t know what they want… seems like a set up for heartache. 😕

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I would continue to date other people and find other things that make me happy and not worry about the guy who needs time. Maybe sometime in the future he will want to try again, but I would only entertain more dates with him if he was clear about what he wanted (and if I wanted the same thing).
If someone’s treating you like an option you shouldn’t hold a space for them for any amount of time. It sucks but it’s something I wish someone had told me when I was younger.

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I’d cut him loose. If he were genuinely interested he wouldn’t be doing this. I’d all but guarantee you he’s involved with someone else. Moving on would be what I would do here. It seems as if you’re wasting your energy on this one from how you describe it.

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This - if he has new man euphoria too over OP he would make him a priority. But I am also curious was this their first and only date? Has OP been on dates with other dudes or is this his first crush? First crush is dangerous and rarely the right guy. I tended to fall in love with guys after a first date in my early 20s… eventually grew out of it.

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Sounds like he’s just not ready. Sorry about that 🙁

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Thank you

RUN! Cracks become craters.

Relationships are like a tennis game. Each person must serve and respond accordingly. Otherwise, you never receive the message that you are actually wanted.

Trust me, he’s not the one.

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