Went out on a few dates with a girl. Things going well, slept over a few times etc. She same day cancels dinner, suggests next day, never follows up (I follow up), and stops responding when I try to reschedule. Ask her out again or take the hint? I vote drop it but some F friends tell me “if he doesn’t try a few times, F can take it as he isn’t serious”. Is that really a thing?

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Op drop her. You don’t need a girl, you need a woman who doesn’t play games and clear in communication. Let’s date!

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Oh dear the thirst

Drop it. Dating shouldn't be this hard.

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Drop her — lack of basic common courtesy is a no go

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So the same day cancellation, no follow up, no response - happened once ? Or is this a pattern ?
LOL on 'he is not serious if he doesn't try few times ' ! There is difference between expecting some effort Vs Playing hard to get ! I personally don't go by these BS moves !

Lol at "try a few times." You don't have to try with someone doing those things unless she had some sort of personal issue that's suddenly come up that would justify her cancelling and disappearing.

How old are you and how old is she?
I would generally say if a person is not responsive for two or three attempt move on, but these are challenging times we are living in. I generally give people the benefit of the doubt - she maybe dealing with personal issues she is not comfortable to share. However, dating is not some sort of a game or test. A person being disengaged because they had a major emergency with their family is acceptable. A person not responding to test how interested you are, on the other hand is a no go. You met her, you know which category she falls in to. Keep us posted. :)

Talk to her about this. Be open and have a direct conversation with her since you've been dating and fornicating (for several times), so it's not like you are trying to newly ask her out. Listen to what she has to say. If you're not convinced then you can make less effort towards the upkeep of current relationship (arrangement). It doesn't seem that you are both exclusive, so you can date others and perhaps she is doing so herself.

I wouldn’t do this to you OP 😉

Take the hint. Let it go. Move on

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