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Were any of you terrified of being pregnant and giving birth but wanted a kid?

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People who tell you “it’s not that bad” are doing what biology makes most women do: forget. Or they had great drugs. It felt like I was dying, each contraction was like someone was ripping my body apart. I can’t remember the pain now, but I remember some of my thoughts, and I’m not about to let biology gaslight me. What helped me was to tell myself that millions and millions of people have done it before me. You can do it too.

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Oof I relate! Terrified of pregnancy and labour. Never been about babies so worry about postpartum. But think I’d be a good mom and love the idea of raising a person. Hard to figure if I’m up to it! So I don’t have good advice… just want you to know you are not alone in trying to figure it out!

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Yes, but honestly the labor and delivery was way better than the pregnancy for me. Postpartum is a different story, but the baby is so worth it 😊

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Yup. But I got over it (wasn’t so bad) and got a baby after all of it!

Yes but you ultimately get over the fear and get the sweetest gift.

I recently watched videos (on YouTube) of uncensored births. I’m pretty terrified of giving birth and it’s helping me get exposed to it. Still think it looks painful AF but slightly demystified

Yes. Fortunately I had a mostly easy pregnancy, but I borderline hyperventilated before I went into hardcore labor. Just kept saying I’M SO SCARED. I’M SO SCARED. The epidural made it all finnnnnne. Have a kid. It’s a wild ride, but they’re awesome❤️❤️

Me! Not pregnant yet, but trying for the first time. Still terrified, but.. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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