WFH with a kid is making me less productive, so I end up working 30% longer hours to make up for it. But the longer I work, I get diminishing returns in productivity, so I have to work longer still. At this point, my mental stamina is just worn out. How do I fix this?

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I know how this feels. It is tough with kids. Gotta win the morning. Get up super early at 5-530 at the latest and just get going. Do something for 30-40 mins if you need to get centered. Make breakfast. Read. Podcast. Lift. Run/walk outside.

But try to just aggressively attack the day as early as humanly possible and really capture those hours when nobody can bother you. It builds from there. That’s how I got out of my funk

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I feel like with kids my life falls apart if I don’t attack early. It’s like I have no choice. If I don’t do it, either my wife will hate me-I won’t be able to be a good dad or my cases will be in shambles

During the day, I’m realistic with my working hour goals - I know I will start later because I have to bathe other human beings, make breakfast, answer silly questions. I get a couple of productive hours and then have to make lunch, situate kids for naps, etc. and then maybe 4 solid hours before I make dinner. A couple of nights a week I work a few hours to make up for the lost time. I rarely try to multitask because you waste more time and get less done IMO.

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I feel this so hard. My 8 hour day is now spread across 14 hours bc I have a 1 year old. And by the time I get to end of day, I’m exhausted and my work takes longer than it should.

Honestly, the only way Im able to make it work is getting hired help to watch him, and my mom helps a day a week. Then I get heads down while the nanny is here, and treat their departure like a deadline to get my stuff done for the day. I don’t know if a nanny is a possibility, but its really tough and you have all my empathy on this one.

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Just do less. It’s only for a time. Don’t kill yourself. Start telling people no or pushing out deadlines. Risk rank everything and skip the low risk stuff or delegate and forget it. We are only human. You will be more productive during your “on” hours if you take care of yourself. Over the long haul, you will do more than if you continue the grind past your point of productivityz

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Do you really need to be as productive as you were before? Maybe yes, maybe no. Cut yourself some slack if you can. You’re not just “working from home;” you’re at home trying to work during a raging pandemic

EY I think this is good in theory. And I agree with you. The expectation that we should be as productive as before is unfair. In practice though, it becomes harder. I think the longer this goes on, the expectation that we need to have a solve in place to make sure we can perform and keep our job grows. Or at least that’s how I feel.

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Good for you! I still just punch my card at five...

I sent mine back to daycare, best decision I made. I realize that isn’t an option for everyone and some people are completely against sending their children to daycare now, which is understandable.

LOL I’m learning so much. Never thought ppl care about so much.

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