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What age were you when you had each kid? I'm 32 and we are trying for our first. SO is 36. But the endless relentless lectures from the women of my family about why "it's so late! Hurry! It's going to be impossible soon!!" is driving me insane. Ideally I would want it to be planned and natural, not IVF or anything, but you never know.

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First at 31, pregnant with our second, will be 33. You’re trying to get pregnant now so your relatives aren’t giving you helpful advice. It’s so unclear before you start trying if you’ll have trouble. My BFF got married at 22 and they started trying right away and took them 5 years for their first and required IVF (although her second was an oops). Another friend got pregnant naturally at 40. The best thing to do is if you want kids now work with your Ob and if you don’t get pregnant within six months then go see a specialist. Even though the guidelines say try for a year, my Ob says that if you’re not pregnant within six months of ac Ivey trying you should go to a specialist because the majority of people get pregnant in six months and there’s no reason to wait longer for medical help. Good luck!

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Also- use ovulation sticks. With our second, we tried for 5 months and nothing, six month we used ovulation sticks and turned out I was ovulating a bit later than I thought. Now pregnant from that month.

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27 with first. As above posters show, of course it is possible to conceive in late 30s/early 40s without issues. What noone is saying though is that the risk of many complications e.g. chromosomal disorders, autism, premature births, stillbirth, miscarriage all increase with age. Ivf success of course drastically diminishes with age if you need it. They dont call over 35 a geriatric pregnancy for nothing. There is no magic cut off point and if you wait you could very well be fantastically fertile and have no issues, but I guess it's all about your personal risk tolerance. Coming from a family with autistic cousins born to mothers and fathers in their late 30s, and having seen my friend go through a stillbirth at 35, my personal risk tolerance is very low. Also in my country, in many regions IVF egg retrieval isnt funded by the state at all under 30. Theres a reason for this as the success rate over 30 (yes 30) is much lower than for a woman in the 20s. Dont mean to scare you but its important to keep facts in mind and not focus on individual success stories that justify waiting ages.

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38 and pregnant with our first. Got pregnant the first month of trying (still can’t believe it!). As SM1 said, go with the timeline that works for you. Talk to your OB and remember that the only opinions that matter are yours, your SO’s, and your doctor’s! Also, the peanut gallery should pipe down after a bit. My husband and I have been together 15 years and they stopped dropping hints after about 8. The best was when my MIL lamented that our dog was the only grandchild she’d ever have. 😏

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Great to hear! I’m 36 but won’t start trying until next year (SO is 33).

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33, pregs with first (he’s 36). We got pregnant on the second try, we just weren’t ready until now. You’re 100% fine, try when you’re ready! It’s very annoying when people but into the timeline that works for you

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I’m 27 pregnant with my first

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christ. i assume none of your family members are from nyc/boston/la/sf, right? 32 is young. even if it takes more time to happen for you, it will happen for you. it wasn't a simple path for me, but i started trying at 38 and gave birth just shy of 40. no one batted an eyelash since that's not an abnormal age here in nyc. my point is, do what's right for YOU emotionally and physically. please don't let your family and their beliefs about age and what's best for you get in your head.

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Amazon OPK’s. Use the expensive ones after you start getting close to a positive on cheapies. Wondfo is what I use from amazon.

Similar to SM1. 31 and pregnant with the first. We weren’t trying earlier and it happened as soon as we started trying. Don’t pressure yourself into having a baby and just remember it may take some time and be patient with yourself.

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36 and 38. Fairly fast and without help but o consider myself fortunate that it worked out that way. I used an ovulation monitor for the second.

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32 with 1st baby (husband was 34).. took 7 months for natural.. you’ve got this OP and it’s not too late 💪🏻

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36, no issues. We had a lot of pressure from family as we were already 10 years married. We wanted to wait until we were fully ready, and it happened pretty quickly once we tried. I also have a few friends that had kids after 40. Expecting better is a good book to read and also talks about age vs fertility. Also there’s an Adam ruins everything episode on this. Fertility is not the only thing to consider though. Also think about: -whether you want multiple kids with an age gap -your body might take longer to bounce back as you get older (just a theory, not backed by research:)) -you’ll need a lot of energy, go thru sleepless nights as you take care of a baby. Make sure your overall level of fitness is good regardless of age

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Surprised to see so far I might be the oldest... Had mine at 41! I first conceived at 40 but miscarried. Both times got pregnant relatively quickly though. And my daughter is perfectly healthy! Only thing is due to our age we're one and done (unless an accident happens;). So just know, even if it takes you longer than you hope to get pregnant, there are very high chances you and your baby will be totally healthy. And I personally think it's probably more manageable the have children at an older age, we're more financially stable and what not now, own our home, can afford good childcare, etc. Geriatric pregnancy ftw! :)

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That was inspiring. Thank you. You could have more kids.

31/33/37. Husband was same age.

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34/36/39. IUI for first two after trying for 6 mos but didn’t take too long, 3rd a happy and welcome surprise w no intervention!

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Currently pregnant with my first at 33—will be 34 when baby is born. Husband is 34, got pregnant within 3-4 months of having my IUD removed, have had no issues so far. I’m sorry that your family is being judgy and pressuring you. I hope they knock it off!

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I was 27, husband was 32. I was one of the first among my friends to have a baby/get married. Also, baby wasn’t planned.

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36 with the first and 38 with the second. We are all perfectly healthy.

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42 and 4 weeks pregnant with my first because hey...why not.

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I will say I would have been ok starting sooner. 44 and I can’t keep up with my 7 and 4 year old...

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My oldest sister had her first at 42 🥰 it’s the right time when you’re ready!

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Completely naturally and completely healthy, might I add!

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I had my first just before turning 41. Considering trying for another soon. A friend had her second at 45.

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Mine was through IUI and my friends was totally natural!

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