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What age will my baby start sleeping through the night for most days even if I don’t sleep train? Hitting one year mark in couple months and still most my night r sleepless

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You need to sleep train. Don’t need to cry it out if you don’t want but just like teaching your child how to read you need to teach them how to sleep soundly all night. I recommend Sleepeasy Solution as a quick read and easy to follow plan.

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It’s “modified cry it out” I think. You do verbal (no touching) check in’s at 5 min, then after another 10, then every 15. Honestly I think the check ins are more for the parents vs the baby though so do whatever you’re comfortable with just BE CONSISTENT. If you cave at minute 45 that teaches baby to cry for 45 minutes..

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Check out Precious Little Sleep blog/book. Essentially when they’re super little they have no concept of object permanence - that is, they fall asleep rocking, cuddling, with you in the room etc., they don’t quite process it. Once you get older they wake up and they have the ability to realize the environment they fell asleep in is different than the current environment (e.g moms not there). How much they care will differ kid to kid, but I think in general most prefer company/ cosleeping/ nursing etc. My friends daughter turns three next month and still wakes once per night (she never established independent sleep and always stayed with her daughter in bed till she fell asleep then snuck out). The book and blog have good resources on how to establish independent sleep both cry it out and gentler methods....

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No good ideas, just sympathy. I truly believe every kid is different. Mine will vomit and hyperventilate if left to CIO, even left for just 5 minutes, though I definitely tried sleep training. She slept 12 hours a night til 8 months, then overnight woke multiple times. Coming into our bed helped for a time, but in her case, teething was the culprit. We switched to a floor twin bed at 12 months, and that helped a lot. I usually sleep with her, at 15 months – but she's still up 4-6am because of molars or canines or the alignment of the stars or god freaking knows.

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I’m not “liking” the struggle for you, but just in solidarity and love for other moms. It’s not always a prescribed method or fix and I appreciate when other moms are honest about that. ❤️

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I was at my wits end at 9 months. Then I put him down one night and stayed in the room next to his cot, and every time he cried I said ‘sssh mamas here’. He cried for 90 mins and fell asleep. Next night took 60 mins. Night after took 15 mins. Then 5, then I started moving away from his cot & after 10 days it was ‘night night’ and he went to sleep. It made me feel a lot better than just letting him cry without me there, which I hated. I put headphones in and listened to podcasts. Never used a pacifier, just a cuddly toy, and now it’s so much easier. Haven’t had to wean him off a pacifier like so many friends have.

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I was adamantly against sleep training but my daughter was waking up every 90 minutes - 2 hours around 6 months. I tried all the no cry options, different feeding patterns, swaddles, sound machines, humidifier, black out curtains, stuffed animals, gas drops, like literally everything I could find on the internet so I wouldn’t have to do cio. It took falling asleep at the wheel driving to a client meeting and almost getting in a car accident on the highway to get me to properly sleep train. It took 6 days and the crying time was down to 10 minutes by day 3. Every baby’s different, some might very well sleep in their own. Mine’s a stubborn one i guess

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From what I hear, it could go for years if you don’t reinforce good habits. I’m totally guilty of letting him nurse at night when I’m home and taking him into bed with me (frankly I miss him because I’m traveling and it’s easier than pumping in the middle of the night). He practically refuses solids when I’m around and clings to me and wants to nurse all the time, but it’s a vicious cycle, at 14-15 month he’s still up multiple times a night.

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I feel you, wish you the best!

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Mine didn’t until I night weaned. But she still sleeps next to me (2 yrs). My 4 y.o still wakes up to come onto bed with me around 2 or 3

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You need to do some form of sleep training or this will be your life in some form for years. We tried EVERYTHING to avoid cry it out, but in the end, it was all that worked. Going into the room to check on her just enraged her and prolonged the process. Being in the room enraged her even more. In the end, it took 3 nights of CIO and we were done. She is a rock star sleeper. Do what is best for you and your baby, but stop letting them rule the night!

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Reinforcing the idea that like anything else, we must teach our children the skill of sleeping. How that lesson is taught is unique to each family, but it’s a skill that needs to be practiced. Babies don’t automatically know how to connect sleep cycles. We all wake up multiple times per night, but most adults done realize it because we can instantly put ourselves back to sleep. Our babies don’t innately have that skill. Do what works for your family, but hope is not a strategy. Sending good sleeping vibes your way.

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Need more detail - how much is he/she waking, how long, how do you respond? I haven’t sleep trained but mine only wakes once and sleeps for long stretches so it sounds like you may need some gentle training or new routine even if you don’t fully sleep train.

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Do you let them cry or just go in automatically? You’ll probably need to let them cry it out a bit, even 5 minutes. Sometimes that’s all they need to settle back themselves. If it’s a new thing it could be teething pain in which case it will pass soon enough. One of my girls got 7 teeth in one month when she was about 7 months old. Loooong month, but it passed.

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Sleep is developmental for every baby and is the first to get disrupted if anything out of the ordinary is happening (new mental leap, illness, teething, etc.). I never felt easy about sleep training and cry methods so never did it but I would make sure 1. Baby’s tummy is full before going to bed. 2. Sleep associations are close by- blanket, lovey, paci, whatever. Sometimes I’d wait a minute or two before rushing into his room and he would’ve settled himself. After a particularly rough regression he ended up with us in bed and that was ok too. Anything for the whole family to be able to sleep. If you’d like to sleep train by all means do it but if you don’t that’s ok too. Baby will sleep more when they’re ready.

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2.5 years for us

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We followed the Ferber method.. bedtime had become such a frustrating time for us and the baby.. it was an hour of rocking him to bed and he wasn’t calm that entire hour anyway.. it took a week of sleep training and then he had learnt to put himself to bed.. he still wakes up multiple times at night to feed (7 month old). But now we don’t need to rock him to bed which otherwise was a commonplace. We plan on doing Ferber for night wakings too now!

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Mine started sleeping through the night around 9mo (before that he woke up every 90 min /2h). I tried most of the methods. In the end I slept train him but during the naps only (I found it too difficult to do it at night and I didn’t want to let him cry for too long). I went to see him every two minutes if he was still crying to give Gil a chance to settle by himself. Hug him and calm him down in my harms every 3 or 4 times. And if it didn’t work out at some points I took him back and he didn’t nap that time. At night I hugged him for as long as he needed before going back to sleep. I was also totally crazy about napping / sleeping time and bed routine. Now he goes to be really easily ! Not sure if it is what I did or just because he was a bit older

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Is the little one getting lots of exercise after dinner? Are they wetting the bed or is there some stressing/ anxiety at play? There is a root cause that will need to be reviewed before knowing what to do. For example. When my partner And I separated my son had separation anxiety always waking up several times a night to check I was still in house and had not left him. We went for counselling (which he did not want to go to) eventually we worked through to a point where it was less stressful for him. But to be upfront it still is an issue of anxiety.

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