What are some habits, biases, cultural expectations, or other aspects of parenting that you don’t want to pass on further to your children?

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My parents were ridiculously strict and I feel like it robbed me of a normal childhood/youth. I hope when I start a family to be more lenient and allow my kids to have fun.

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Literally everything I see on this bowl lmao.


No tolerance for:
-racism
-misogyny
-any kind of superiority/hate
-“log kya kahenge”
-verbal or physical abuse
-nationalism


—Celebrate all of their achievements (big or small) to encourage them.
— let them question things (both religious and cultural) and give them my view, the objective view others espouse, and ask them their thoughts and why.


No children yet but I do it with my nephew and all my other cousin’s kids too.

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Constantly comparing their kids to other kids

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Telling kids to not worry about what the community says/thinks.

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Am I the only one with desi parents who had a normal childhood lol?

This bowl depressing

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May you both be reunited in Jannah iA

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Racism, dogmatism, obsession with school, let them live a little

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Desi culture

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Racism, sexism, manipulative & controlling behaviour, a culturally biased view of Islam, physical abuse.

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Misyogny

Religious fanaticism

Colorism

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Lmao i guess I'm the strange one but I'm gonna be more strict in Sha Allah. Make sure they love and know their deen. Memorize Quran, speak Arabic. Do a martial art prob like BJJ for discipline and self defense.

This might be controversial but everything in South Asian culture adopted from the Indian culture is toxic. We need to strip that from our identity.

Islamic empire was grown based on conquering non-Muslim lands - not unlike any other empire including Christianity and Hinduism. People were not converted through mass forced conversion - this what Indian curriculum taught you. First few generations most Muslims were immigrants. Vast majority of Muslims in Indian subcontinent are of central Asian descent. The ones that are not (e.g. Bengal, Kerala) converted through organic conversion. After 1000 years of Muslim rule, how are there still more Hindus than Muslims in South Asia if you prescribe to the conversion by conquest theory. Conversion by conquest was practiced by Christians.


Actually, most prominent way Islam was spread was through the trade routes Muslims created connecting the whole world. Anyone who converted for show or to gain favour, converted back very soon.

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