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Just travel a lot! Milestones are overrated
Birthdays, keeping a plant alive for a year or more, vacations, learning a new hobby, mastering a hobby, finishing a book, reaching financial goals, taking care of a garden, cooking a full holiday meal, travel, learning a language, take care of a pet, fitness goals, drive a motorcycle, photography, learn to play an instrument. Once you become a homeowner in the future there’s a ton of new stuff to learn about maintaining property, paying off mortgage. But on the way to that, there is so much life! And once you have some milestones like a house, it can also be a lot of work and energy to maintain and doesn’t fix everything just to achieve that so don’t make that your end goal. 💕
I love these! Cooking a full holiday meal is a good one. I did it for the first time last year and I felt so accomplished haha
Cliche answer is don’t make society’s milestones your definition of happiness. Sit down and really think through milestones that would make YOU happy. And it’s not about checking off milestones, it’s about the in between and especially the present.
Growth as a human being or development in a skill that was difficult for you as a child? I sucked at Math as a child and now have degree in statistics and am pretty decent at data science. More importantly, I am identifying and breaking some of the toxic shit I was taught when I was a child through self reflection and hard work. None of these are easily recognizable milestones but every time I “free” myself of some of these behaviors and habits, I feel hugely accomplished.
Chief
The answer to your question is different for everyone - what are the things you've always wanted to do, experience, and achieve in your life? Those are your milestones.
Key milestones for me were:
- Being comfortable with who I am, my strengths and weaknesses and not feeling pressured to “fit in” with what society thinks is suitable
- Knowing who are my real friends and who are just “social / fair weather” friends
- Learning what are the truly important things in life: health, having a supportive network of friends and family who I can rely on, etc and prioritising that
- Learning not to sweat the small stuff and to let things go
Rising Star
Honestly the routine milestones like kids and marriage mean very little to me. Besides travel I dont really have milestones besides hitting a M in my investments portfolio.
I think those milestones are traditional at best, dare I say outdated? I always think the point of life is to find joy and fulfillment. So that's what you've got to look forward to - doing more of what you love. I've hit two.of those milestones and not in that order. And god knows if and when I'll hit the others. But I wake up everyday grateful for what I have and reminding myself what I love about my life and the things that bring me joy. Very cliche but it works.
Rising Star
Yeah, I’m not really into “milestones”. Why do you feel you need them?
Pro
Completing active goals is my jam: a century ride, triathlon, a challenging hike/backpacking trip, etc.
I mean, the first 2 are milestones, the other 3 are completely optional.
Being able to put up shelves or do a household repair, going to brunch and ordering a non-alcoholic drink, that first really extravagant handbag/jewelry, throwing out the IKEA furniture, talking with your friends about 401k accounts and property taxes.
Don’t also make minors into majors and vice versa. Know which are essential to your life and which are rest areas on your journey, one easily replaceable for another.
Rising Star
Many of these milestones aren’t really something you plan, but gates in life that we pass by as we take life one day at a time. I’m reading “atomic habits” now, and it reminds me that rather than setting goals, create processes in life that help you achieve those goals. For instance if you want to get married, then set milestones to socialize more and learn about loving yourself and being happy so you can love and bring joy to your future husband.
I agree with the other posters here regarding travel. And specifically traveling for more than a few weeks at a time in a place completely different from where you’ve been. It’s a good reset. Taking international assignments is a convenient way to do this.