What are your biggest regrets in dating? Anyone regretted staying with someone for too long?

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basically that, staying too long. Generally you know when to leave, but make excuses to stay

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Yes. Should have ended it as soon as I knew it wasn’t going anywhere. Instead I stayed an extra 5 ish years out of 7 total

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Not starting earlier. I told myself relationships don’t make sense in college because they would always be long distance, but I am very behind on learning how to open my heart to someone & resolve conflicts in relationship….I’ve been single for so long idk what id do with another person.

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Be patient with yourself. Relationships help us to learn a lot about ourselves, so it’s great you have a sense of self-awareness going in. Go on dates and get to know people.

I think I know it’s time to leave but a part of me makes excuses to stay because she genuinely is a great person and would be a great wife and mother if we went down that route but I just don’t see myself with her anymore.

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Had a messy end to a five year relationship. They’re now engaged, and while I don’t miss the romantic side of things, I genuinely wish we could be friends. Unfortunately, I don’t see that ever happening 😔

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Wow, that feels unnecessarily hostile with no context. Nothing wrong with leading with kindness next time…

It was my high school sweetheart and best friend growing up. We broke up bc we felt we needed more experiences besides one another before settling down, and it was messy only in that it was very difficult to start dating other people while still having a shared friend group. We lost touch because we did move on (this was many years ago).

The reason why I say I don’t think we could revisit our friendship is literally out of respect for the fact that he’s engaged. I would feel uncomfortable reaching out. I would have preferred to become amicable again, though, because we still share the same small hometown and some mutual friends, and we will likely run into each other in the future.

I think it’s worth sharing a contrasting life philosophy for whoever reads this: breaking up doesn’t have to mean you stop caring about someone or can’t enjoy the happy memories you once shared while still honoring one another’s current lives. I hate the fact that our society puts so much emphasis on not caring about our ex’s. I found a new partner who I love and who better suits the person I’ve become. That doesn’t take away from the fact that I will always wish my first partner all the best. I still hope that one day, as now adults, we can come back together to share all the positive growth and experiences we’ve had since we made that very difficult decision.

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I was with my ex for 7 years and there were so many red flags. He didn’t reciprocate the energy I put in and I was constantly drained by the relationship. In the end, he started putting conditions on getting engaged and started questioning whether I was the one for him… he didn’t want to get married before 30 (we were 27). He met someone online late last year, got engaged in June and he’s getting married tomorrow.

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Wow this is deep. Hope things turn around and work for you as well

All of them were too long 😂 don’t ignore flags in the beginning that are hard dealbreakers

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My biggest regrets: wasting time trying with someone when my energy wasn’t being reciprocated. I stayed way too long, when I could have used that time either focusing on myself or with someone who actually cared. Second regret was giving too many chances to get things right when those red flags were waving and hitting me dead in the face

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I do regret staying with some one too long, we met in university and I moved home when I was done so we spent one year together and one year long distance and I started to think that this wasn’t going to last, but I stayed as I had a trip booked to see him, thought seeing him might change something. It was so close to sealing the deal but what finally sealed was finding out that he had someone else that he had been seeing. Regret wasting the extra time on him for sure should have just stopped ahead of time

Not asking enough questions. Sex, money, debt, career, kids. Personal habits. Etc.

Yeah, my marriage!😂😂

Staying with someone who cares more about sports than spending time with their significant other.

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