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What do people think about circumcision? It was a no-brainer for me that I’d want to do it if I had a son, but now that we’re pregnant with a boy, husband says he’s not 100%. I don’t know how to have that conversation. Like why not?

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Not medically necessary so why put the kid through it was our logic. My husband is circumcised and this was his opinion as well.

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We took the stance that if he wanted cosmetic surgery, he could do to choose it when he was old enough to consent 🤷🏼‍♀️

My husband is circumcised and agreed.

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There’s a documentary on Netflix that may help. But generally I’m in the “if it’s not necessary I’m not doing it” camp. Like I wouldn’t genitally mutilate my daughter so why my son. Risk of complications or need for a late in life circumscision are incredibly low so I don’t buy the hygiene arguments. My husband is not circumcised so we’re comfortable that he’ll be able to teach proper cleaning etc.

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The foreskin has function! My husband isn’t circumcised either; I am pretty sure we’d both miss it if it were gone (him especially).

He has never had an issue with cleaning, hygiene, or anything else.

His cousin decided to get circumcised as an adult; not exactly a walk in the park but is an option if the kid grows up to dislike having foreskin. I would absolutely NOT remove that choice.

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It took about 5 minutes of me watching the docu “the elephant in the hospital” to decide against it. My husband and i were both on the fence. He is uncircumcised, but we saw the value in both arguments. He never had any issues, though.

One thing no one ever talks about is post op care lasts for months on babies. Like having to pull the skin back over and over again. Sounded like another thing to stress about for my friends that were moms of boys. We ended up having a girl so it didn’t matter, but if I had to choose in the future, would probably just let him be as nature designed!

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Nope our son did not get circumcised. Apparently the main “benefit” was once hygiene but that’s not true anymore in a world where people bath/shower daily. So then it just comes down to religious beliefs.

Our guy was a premie and had an infection when he was born that caused him to get blasted with antibiotics for a week. The nicu doctor literally told us also having him circumcised would “just add insult to injury.” We hadn’t planned to get it done anyway and we certainly didn’t change our minds.

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Maybe start by asking your husband, why not?

We grew up in a culture where it’s not common, and ultimately decided to do it so that he would match his peers growing up. That was it.

Parents and kids where we’re from learn how to clean properly (no different than keeping a girl’s vulva/vagina clean), so the hygiene argument was irrelevant for us.

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We didnt do it for our son. There really isnt a reason to do it and to my knowledge, the studies that show it's better for hygiene and cancer risk reduction were not conducted in wealthier cultures that had access to good medical care, etc. I know some have a concern about "matching." My husband is circumcised and literally my son has never seen his dad's penis (and at 10.5 years old, I cant think of a time he will), and I think even if he had, a difference wouldn't dawn on him. So I can't see how that would he a good reason.

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Watch American Circumcision. I think it’s on Amazon. You’ll stop having any interest in getting it done. My husband is circumcised and figured we’d just do it again for our son but watching that convinced us both!

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I’m from a culture where no one circumcises, but my husband is and we initially planned to do it for my son. But once he was born, one look at him and we changed our minds (he was such a little baby)! Told the nurse we were backing out and she said it happened all the time.

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Not medically necessary and we aren't Jewish and so we did not for our son.

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We did it. I didn’t really care either way at first but figured on the margin better for him to be like his dad and most friends. It was actually not nearly as traumatic as I expected and things were pretty normal after a few days.

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Both my husband and cousin had issues that required circumcision later in life (non hygiene related). My husband, although he comes from a catholic country, basically said he wanted his son to have it done as a baby given how unpleasant the experience is for an adult, with a high likelihood of adverse impact on nerve sensitivity. Care for a baby after circumcision is not bad at all (like 2 weeks). And whoever said that you don’t need to take as much care when the baby is uncircumcised vs. circumcised, is simply not correct - my understanding from a pediatrician is that it is about the same.

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Can confirm that there was no special care of my uncircumcised baby’s penis post birth. I mean zero, like I imagine what you’d expect with a girl.. wipes and baths. Not sure what this could be referring to.

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Hmmm outside of religious reasons, I don’t see why you wouldn’t do it to be honest. It’s more hygienic and studies show that it decreases risk of UTIs, STDs and even cancer.

My boys are. Search the bowl for previous posts about this, I remember a lively thread from a while ago.

Jewish. Husband is not. Was never question for me that our son would be circumcised. My husband is not circumcised. It was a huge argument for months before he was born. My husband is super clean (takes more than one shower a day) and said it was super easy to clean the foreskin and that we would be maiming our son.
I took a firm stance and said not only was it important to me for religious reasons, but I wanted our son not to be made fun of in the locker room as it is super common for American boys to be circumcised these days.
He caved.
I gave in to our son having his last name.
Compromise.
Lol.

No of course, totally understandable. I was just referring to your last couple sentences.

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My brother wasn’t circumcised and he wasn’t taught how to clean his private part properly so as a teenager he got badly infected and had to do circumcision at that point. It was a painful experience. We have a boy and my
Husband is Jewish so for us it was a no brainer.

Ouch, poor kid - hygiene education is super important!

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