What do y’all think about wedding registries that are honeymoon funds or first home funds? I’m setting mine up and was wondering if this is tacky? I don’t need any pots and pans and other items.

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Great idea! People can contribute what they can afford to something that will create priceless memories. Wishing you much love and happiness!

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No it’s not tacky. You’re asking people who love you to help invest in your future. If they’re not willing to do that they prob shouldn’t be invited to the wedding to begin with.

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I think it's great. Many people in my life have all the "things" they need. When I saw my friend's registry included a honeymoon fund for cash contributions, but also gift cards to Delta airlines and Hotel.com, I loved it and went straight for that as my gift.

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Oh gift cards for airlines and hotels is a great idea!

It’s tacky to me. But do you.

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I agree, it’s very tacky!

I did a honeymoon fund but set it up so people could purchase certain experiences on the honeymoon instead of just money in a pot. E.g. "romantic dinner with city view", "private tour of ..." that way people could feel connected to specific portions of the honeymoon

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But in reality, it’s just money in a pot, right?

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My friend did this and I prefer it.

I don't like getting people actual items and usually opt for cash anyways. To know it's going towards something as important as a home or honeymoon feels so much better than buying a mixer or some linens.

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Congratulations!

Also, not tacky. I think the days of registries full of “house things” are from when people got married super-young and didn’t have enough stuff to stock a house. Today, people are usually combining two fully functioning homes, and have to donate what they don’t want to own in duplicate.

We just gifted some newlyweds gift cards to Lowes & Target to get the things they wanted, whenever they decide what they want. 👰🏾🤵🏾‍♂️

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It's not tacky.

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Not tacky. And the knot has a great smart up for it.

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It’s not tacky. The people that can will contribute.

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Here’s the thing: if people are put off by it, then they won’t contribute. Maybe they’ll bring a gift or just show up— that’s a gift too. But in all honesty, I have no desire to go to Crate and Barrel to scan 100 things for people to pick from— cash is a better option and you ensure that the couple uses it the way they want.

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Honestly I don’t like it for me I just feel if you need financial support to pay to have a honeymoon fund or new home fund opt out the elaborate wedding and buy a home first. At least that will appreciate in value. Wishing you the best on your wedding and marriage.

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I think this a new thing and not traditional and that’s why some people feel like it’s tacky. I personally wouldn’t do it but I also eloped and kept it moving. And was like we’s married now. Lol.

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I think it is tacky. Just ask for monetary gifts instead of doing a registry.

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I have this same question

I personally like the idea and don’t believe it’s tacky at all. I’ve heard of people doing something like this before.
Good luck with the wedding!

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Not tacky to me. My cousin is doing the house fund and I thought it was smart! First time I ever seen that.

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Honeymoon fund is not tacky to me.

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I am old and I don't think it's tacky. Recently had this for a nieces wedding and thought it was a great idea.

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The “first home funds” probably makes people think you’re spending money on the wedding instead of your house, so it can come off tacky to some. I’ve seen people ask for home decor gift cards for their first home to offset the cost of furniture and the million other things you need with a house. The honeymoon funds is cute and I see it tied to experiences on the trip or airline gift cards most of the time.

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I don’t think it’s tacky. It’s the same as asking for monetary gifts that I’ve received on invites. At the end of the day if someone is going to give they are going to do so regardless and those who are just gonna show up to eat and drink your liquor without gifts in hand will do just that lol. Don’t sweat it folks either respect it or check it.

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I don’t think it’s tacky. Nowadays when people are already living together and have all the “stuff” they need it’s a great idea to fund something else. Whether a house, honeymoon or other future needs.. who cares?!
Im from a culture where it’s the norm to give cash to newlyweds in hopes to set them up for the future.

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