What do you all think of the pressure to “run really hard” while pregnant right up until maternity leave? I think this is the mentality I see/ feel pressure to follow…

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Don’t feel pressured - it’s all about knowing your worth and making whatever the circumstances work for you. I had a horrible 1st trimester with constant morning sickness and fatigue, so I adjusted my schedule to make things work for me. I was up for promotion that year and there was pressure to deliver / drive sale but setting the right tone with your team and boss are critical. Definitely helps to have a workplace that values family and recognizes diversity. I have to say I found solitude in work my 2nd and 3 trimester, has all sort of health issues and taking my mind off them and working with teams / clients I loved helped.

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I don’t think there is pressure to “run really hard” but many do choose to work up until you deliver. Much of the decision is highly personal and you need to advocate for what you need and discuss with your team (ideally proactively). In most instances when you are within a month of the due date you need to start handing over the work because you could go at any time. For me, I did have some nesting tendencies but wasn’t quite sure what I would do if I were sitting at home waiting for the baby to come. Would much rather have more time once the baby arrived to get into the new rhythm and make sure we had a good sleep routine

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… but during pregnancy many of us are sick / tired and so working 70 hours a week to “prove something” seems really unfair

I had a high risk pregnancy. So that mentality 100% didn’t work for me. Thankfully I had lots of people around me telling me to slow down and take it easy. Which is good because even still I ended up on bed rest for the last 2 months. Now I’ve been back nearly a year and things are going great! I’m kicking butt and am really glad I took all the extra time and rest, even though it all felt tortuous as the time

I did with my first, not with this one. With my first I went into labor 2 weeks early. I already told my one manager that I was going to slow down after the first of the year since I’d go out on maternity leave in feb and they didn’t seem to mind (yet). We’ll see though

(This would be vs it being acceptable to “tone it down” a bit during pregnancy to take good care of our personal health)

I would say run as hard as you can, which may mean different things depending on how your pregnancy is going. I feel like pregnancy in the workplace is still relatively new in the sense that people are learning what to think of it and how to respond/support. What we do and signal now will help continue to shape that.

My advice is don’t let external pressure be the reason you run hard. I worked up to delivery because I could, I had a relatively easy pregnancy. But getting pregnant was a nightmare (multiple rounds of fertility treatment). I did the best I could during that time but definitely pulled back and said no to some opportunities.

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