What do you call a situation where you go for guys who you know fully well it won’t work but try to sabotage ones that would work by looking for a red flags because you are afraid of being heart broken? Asking for a friend?

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Dating in 2022 😔

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Self-sabotaging

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I specialise in relationships. You need to see a professional to help you figure out why you’re doing this to yourself. I have a book coming out early next year called ‘Fascination with the Devil: Why Women Love Emotionally Dangerous Men. I wrote it because I kept running into women who do what you’re doing, and I wanted to help.

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Avoidant attachment

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Unaddressed trauma. Find a therapist. Work through your child wounds.

You may have a person close to you like a parent who is emotionally unavailable or made you feel as though you need to work for love. So you replicate that in your relationships - because that is what feels safe and like home. When it’s too easy your body almost senses danger so your mind creates it.

Sounds like you’ve been trained it’s not love if it isn’t hard. Time to rewire.

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Exactly - and I learned the hard way.

This pattern is only sustainable for so long until you hook a malignant narcissist. Then you have no other choice but to do the work. These people will break your spirit and your mind.

Learn about your trauma. Learn yourself completely and heal your wounds so you can come at your relationships from a place of giving and not from need for validation.

The biggest power you can give yourself is your own. Find someone who vibes with THAT energy. That’s when you know you’ve found a good one.

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Situationship

Bad decision making?

Daddy issues.

???? I’d call that not using your brain, as it makes no sense at all

Emotionally unavailable

Setting yourself up for disappointment

I used to do this. I went to therapy and it helped a lot.

I call that being a woman

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