What do you do to not feel bad about yourself if you get paid a lot less than your younger siblings and some of your friends even though you hold more degrees?
Note: It’s a feeling of being under valued but I an not jealous in fact I am happy for them.

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We both are the least paid on both sides of the family. We have the smallest and oldest house and the crappiest and oldest cars.

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Comparison is the thief of joy! When I find myself feeling frustrated or resentful about something I like to focus on things that I have that I am so grateful for - it is so easy to forget all the little things that we have to be thankful for every day.

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Either the industries aren't comparable at all therefore there's nothing to worry about or either of you might be under or overpaid. I'd say if you're underpaid, ask for a raise or look for another job in your industry. If, however, your sibling is overpaid for what they do, they got lucky and there's really not much that can be done to improve the situation.

All is to say, if there's something you can change on your end, then you should do so if it'll make you happier. If there is nothing that you can do on your end then there's no sense worrying about it because it's out of your control.

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Easier said than done - but try to stop comparing yourself to others. There's always going to be others with more, better, etc. in all aspects of life - whether family, friends, or others. Do your best to focus on your own happiness in isolation from others, the expectations of media, etc.

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If you’re feeling undervalued, can you make steps to get a higher paying job to where you feel like your hard work is valued? Sure, there’s a ton of advice on how we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others, but also want to be mindful that you are not stuck where you’re at. And hopefully you can make impactful changes that will benefit your happiness down the road!

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More degrees doesn’t mean more $$, in fact after the first advanced degree it’s usually diminishing returns, if any. It sounds like you’re not accurately assessing your market value - do your friends/siblings have more work experience?

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Well there ya go. While I do agree with the gentler “don’t compare yourself to others” approach, if you must compare at least look at the right metrics lol.

Don’t talk about money. Have no idea what my sister and BIL make and don’t care.

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Who had the best childhood tho? Who has more friends? Who looks better? Whos kids are better? Who’s teeth are whiter? Who’s D is bigger? Who feels better? You can compare all day.. I’d recommend you don’t as nobody has it all. Best lesson was my old small firm partner had it all.. but both his kids were troubled and mentally ill. That was his biggest sadness.

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Let it go…. Nobody really knows anything about what goes on behind closed doors… maybe they make more money but have more stress…

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Everyone is on their own journey and where you are now is not permanent. If you feel undervalued it’s worth taking a look and seeing if you can increase your pay in a new job. It can’t hurt.

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