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What do you do with male consultants continuously trying to claim your space on your project? I feel just because I’m a young female manager that by definition I get less appreciated!

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“Feminist Fight Club.” Great book about just this thing. Different tone from “Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office."

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It didn’t win me any friends in the beginning, but I’ve called them out on it. Not that I’ve been actively hostile or sought to embarrass them, though. Once I said “That’s a good approach, but as the project manager of record I need to research and document this before we decide to implement.” Another time I got a little angrier and said, “Please stop trying to confuse the team with multiple directions. I am assigned to this (task) and will be taking responsibility."

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That’s what I get upset about sometimes too. A partner in our firm calls me aggressive , but when a male colleague does that same exact thing he’s taking initiative. I just feel like he’s trying to put me in a place and that makes me feel more aggressive. But I don’t say anything and usually avoid him at all costs. I’ve not figured out solutions yet.

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Pwc1 same, gurl. “Aggressive” has become such a trigger for me to talk about gender dynamics! 😝 Our entire group is “aggressive.” You just don’t like it from me because I’m the lone female lead!

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Following. I feel the same at times and I sometimes choose being aggressive like sitting down at the table before everyone to claim my seat. Sometimes I make sure I provide an opinion even if not asked for so that people remember I’m a part of the team. Open to more suggestions.

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Following as well... Staffed in a stretch role where I’m managing a small team. Fooled the client into thinking I’m older, but the internal team keeps pushing back on me

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I’m constantly being told that I’m too aggressive, but I’m only matching the level that i’ve seen from the men on my projects. Guess they can’t handle what they dish out 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I recently joined consulting from a role in industry in an organization dominate by women (until SVP, you know the story) and the boys club in consulting is really annoying AF. They need to get over the aggressive crap.

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Thanks ladies! It is just so frustrating - I’m also sometimes getting a bit aggressive but I’m just not sure if it is the right strategy...

Seconding the suggestion of the book Feminist Fight Club!!!!

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