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If someone is having a kid and doesn’t want to be called a mother, I’m fine calling them birthing parent or whatever they prefer, but I’ll keep using mother as the default since it applies to 99.99% of situations
A mother shall always be a mother. If a transgender man births a child, he gets to chose how he is referred to - and I will always respect and honor that.
But we don’t get to replace the broader the terminology for mothers out of this obsession with de-gendering language and being blindly politically correct. It’s getting out of hand and we are losing sight of the real issue.
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I completely agree. It’s also rare for trans men to give birth, so it seems odd to me to replace the broader terminology for a minuscule number. The US isn’t tracking but Australia reported 40 trans men gave birth in 2017.
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It’s the virtue signal du jour. We can only pray it goes the way of “Latinx” and “xe,” but who knows.
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What are you smoking.
I personally hate the term. Just wanna see what other people think about it.
Enthusiast
The term “mother” has been used since forever, what’s wrong with it? Don’t fix what isn’t broken.
Enthusiast
Well I don’t think being a child’s parent HAS to mean they are your biological child. If a child is adopted(could apply to same sex male couples too), the couple taking care of the child is still considered their parents. Who would be the “birthing parent” in that case, the biological mother who isn’t in the picture anymore? Also if you’re arguing semantics, “mother” is probably correct in 99.9% of situations. Just sounds as silly to me as fighting to remove/change “Watch your step” safety signs because people in wheelchairs don’t make steps.
Chief
I find it insulting to be reduced down to a bodily function, personally. If someone wants to be called a birthing parent - fine, more power to them. But every woman I know prefers to be called a mother.
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Seems fine to me and honestly more equalizing in cases when the couple uses a surrogate. We already use the phrase in our parental leave policy.
Edit: Clearly others haven’t heard of this. Interesting.
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Sounds like rich people problem.
Chief
Seems like something some random on Twitter came up with and the right latched on to so they can whine about "wokeness"
Chief
I’m a political moderate, maybe even center-right, but 1000% this… it immediately makes me think of chattel slavery and gives me such a viscerally negative reaction
what would replace the term Father?
Rising Star
Ya’ll laugh, but there was a recent video in the past two days everyone was sharing about a Republican Senator being called out for assuming men can’t get pregnant/give birth
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If you care so much about de-gendering language, start at home and stop using “you guys.”
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I’ve always considered “you guys” as the English equivalent of Nosotros.
Rising Star
We’ve lost a grip on reality🥲
Where are there “proposals” to “eliminate” the term “mother” or “pregnant women”? Where?
People want “birthing parent” included in policies and abortion rights conversations to be inclusive of the tiny percentage of trans men and non-binary people who get pregnant.
Last time, I checked, no one was trying to “eliminate” the word mother. But please, share where that’s happening. Because it would be insane.
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Parental is the term you’re looking for SE. Paternity refers to father/male parent and maternity/female parent refers to mother.
Chief
Absurd. Use it if you want but don’t think someone else has to use it.
Rising Star
Love all the things we can find offensive and need to change in order to not be bigots
I would wish that people just weren’t so sensitive (god forbid we hear mother) but I know saying that will get me labeled far right
This is the dumbest idea.
Rising Star
Oh look it’s the American Taliban come to remind us all the end is nigh because *of transgender *folks 🙄
Chief
In summary, no one has suggested that we "eliminate" the term "mother" besides OP but some have suggested that we add words to our vocabulary that are inclusive of other genders and situations.
It's this inclusivity that seems to have triggered OP into a fit of pearl clutching outrage.
I think it should say “mother/birthing parent”. Nothing wrong with adding more options to make people feel more included. Definitely not cool to take away the term mother from people who would like to be referred to as such.
I loved it until someone referred to me with it when I was pregnant. It felt minimizing to my whole experience which was so much bigger than just birth. I’m fine for it for others if they prefer it.