What do you think would happen if your firm found out you're poly? I feel like I'm back in the closet again just because I'm in a happy throuple that I don't feel like I would ever want the firm to know about.

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I agree with others above , if you’re already accepted as LGBT then the rest is just details. They may not get it, they may not want to talk about it, but if they accept you then they will adjust.

Just don’t expect to get more than the traditional “+1” invite for paid corporate events 😄

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I will be awaiting my +2....

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This is a tough one. Some people will judge, but it's upto you whether or not to be fazed by that

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Not as concerned about judgement, more concerned about the collateral consequences for my career if it became known. I guess I'm just trying to think of an action plan in case someone finds out—I'm in a big market, but a very niche practice, so word spreads.

Not that you should live in the closet, but I’m trying to understand why you need to detail this? I’m 20-years post graduation and people want the basics...gay, I’m hitched and I had tacos last weekend. We are all friendly, but not best friends. We have our own lives. Reference your dynamic duo collectively as your spouse and no one will care to know more.

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I don't need to detail it—but sometimes people figure things out. I was curious if anyone had encountered a similar situation

Please share more about throuple details please

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Sounds yummy and impressive ❤️❤️❤️

I have no advice for you but I want to say hi poly friend 👋

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Thanks poly friend! There's literally dozens of us!

Are you bringing more than one partner to a work event?

You got balls/ladyballs of steel if that’s the case.

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I agree re not overthinking. But. So hard 😳

If you are in a firm where you'd be comfortable being openly LGBT, then being poly shouldn't matter, or at least not be a huge issue?

Eh, seems like a bigger leap than being gay, since polyamarous relationships are still not openly mainstream, even in the lgbt world.

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