What does fetishisation of Asian women mean in the American context? What are its ramifications on Asian women? I am new to this country.

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This reminds me of a conversation I had with a classmate.

Classmate: “So yeah, I’m going to marry my korean girlfriend - we didn’t have any in our country?”

Me: “didn’t have any? You sound like you’re talking about an object or owning one vs seeing them as lifelong partner”

Classmate: “no, I love them - they’re so exotic, like an animal you rarely see”

Me: 🤦🏻

Needless to say - that marriage only lasted 2-3 years

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🤢🤮 Well he sure sounds like an animal you see often. 🐀

It means that white men created this stereotype of the “submissive, hypersexualized, exotic Asian women” and then force fit it on Asian women.

What are its ramifications on Asian women? Asian women are the most likely group in this country to experience sexual violence and assault.

Have you been to SE Asia and seen the clusters of creepy old white men roaming around like flies?

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The Atlanta shooting, for one

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The justification the shooter gave was to suppress his sexual urges. But the victims happen to be majority asian women. So it's clear he only saw them as sexual objects and nothing else.

Man sees an Asian woman and think demur and passive that he can dominate socially and sexually.

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OP can you give us a hint about your background, to help set context?

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It means ur meant to be a slave and sexual object. That’s what idiots have been built to believe.

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the sexualization of Asian women leads to us not being seen as human. In the atlanta shooting, that guy likely saw the women at the massage parlors literally as sexual objects, dolls if you will, not actual people. many people in the US view Asians as subservient/there to serve them, which is further exacerbated for Asian women

I think fetishization is especially insidious because many people don’t take it seriously. “omg why are you getting mad? it was a compliment, he said he’s into you!”

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