What does your nanny do? What are reasonable responsibilities for a nanny? Can I ask her to cook for baby? Is it reasonable to expect her to come up with stimulating activities? I'm wondering if my nanny isn't doing enough for my 9mo old. I prep all his meals, she just warms and feeds it to him, she doesn't plan any activities for him or do anything besides supervise him while he plays with his toys and when he's bored, she just brings out more and more toys for him. She doesn't put away (Cont)

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I don’t have a nanny, but I would think she should at least come up with stimulating activities and clean the play area at a minimum.

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I’ve a nanny for my 8mo and she does almost everything you mentioned above except planning activities - which I plan for her. Basically anything related to my daughter is her responsibility. Others may disagree, but I’m very particular about not using phone around my baby unless it’s an emergency. We don’t use our phones around her either. I’ve also interviewed babysitters and nannies from couple different websites and I believe these are normal expectations.
Did you clear expectations with her when you hired her? You should discuss/remind her again and make sure she knows what all she needs to do. You could also make a daily chore list for her. I would definitely talk to her and see what are her expectations and go from there.

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She sounds more like a very basic baby sitter. I would think you could find a better nanny. Are you paying her commensurate with what she's doing now or what you want her to be doing? what expectations were set out at the start?

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Our nanny does all of the above. She also cooks dinner for us once to twice a week during nap time and does our laundry. I think you should set expectations with the nanny - but if she’s worked with you for a while, you may need to incentivize with additional pay if these are different expectations than when you hired her. I don’t care much about phone use, within reason. We hired a career nanny in her 50s who had excellent references and is used to doing childcare with housework.

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Put away his toys. She doesn't clean or organize his play area. And when he's napping, shes just on her phone. The only thing she does well is his laundry. Very reliably does laundry every week. Should I be asking her to do more? I've also caught her on her phone sometimes while she's with him. I'm wondering how I can approach her and ask for improvement.

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Our nannies have always…
- Made them their meals (but for a baby we just bought the pre made gerber baby food… I didn’t expect her to boil and purée veggies for example). But she might mash an avocado or banana. With toddlers she would make them lunch but nothing gourmet
- play with baby and this was typically more than just putting out toys. She’d engage, read to baby, come up with games, etc. now with out four and 2.5 year old they do arts and crafts, imaginative play, etc.
- pre covid ours would take our kids to museums, the zoo, etc. now when the weather is good enough they still go to the park or on a walk
- puts away toys / tidies up
- kids laundry
- also empties the dishwasher for us
- when we used to get a meal prep kit we’d also have her prep a meal (chop veggies, etc) but then we’d cook it ourselves

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Nanny does all of the above but all those activities are in her contract and we’re clearly communicated during the interview as our expectations.

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Our nanny does all of the above. She cooks for our 2 children and freezes spares for us to use at the weekend. She does all their laundry. She plans activities (with our input and suggestions too) and arranged play dates. She doesn’t clean the house but she does clean / tidy up after herself (and teaches the children to do the same, which is important). She only uses her phone when the baby naps or when it’s related to them (eg sending me photos, arranging activities). It’s important to set expectations upfront but I think this is not unusual to expect a nanny to do these things

We’ve had nanny for over five years and have found the range of what a nanny does varies extremely widely, some nannies will do significant work around the house other nannies will only do childcare.

Did you talk about these expectations during the interview/contact process? Nannie tasks should ideally be fully specified in the contract, it frankly may be hard to change this now. Our contracts have always specified the exact chores we want them to do, down to the day (eg: M/Th: kids laundry, T: clean art supplies, etc).

Our nanny

Makes food for kids
Cleans their rooms
Does they laundry
No screen time
Takes kids out unless bad weather
Plays with them, does crafts, activities

We don’t ask her to, but she also does light cleaning in our common areas

Agreed upon responsibilities:
Takes care of toddler and actively plays with her
Takes toddler out of the house once or twice a day (walks, zoo, museums pre-omicron)
Preps food for toddler
Does toddler laundry
Cleans up toys
Vacuums and cleans bathrooms
Cleans kitchen

She doesn’t:
Cook for us (sometimes she will if she has time but it’s not expected)
Grocery shop for us
Come up with new learning activities

This reminds me of the Sister wives episode where Christine goes “What Does The Nanny - DO?!” 😂

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