What is one action or one milestone in your post 40 life that gave you most satisfaction and happiness? Could be personal or professional.

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Had an affair ...

Hear me out before you crucify me. I was too focused on my career for a while, drifted apart from my wife and kids. Over time grew more depressed and burnt out. Stumbled into an affair (well, I know it didn’t just happen, I had a big part in it). The affair sort of gave me the kick I needed to look at my life, shook me up. Once the initial high disappeared, I took a look at what I really wanted. For me it was my family after all.

I have worked hard for two years to make more time and be present, pay attention to my wife, make the effort and take the first step. Thankfully she has responded too. Staying home the last year has really helped too.

I am ashamed but also glad where I am now

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I think there are very few people who would share something like this even if “anonymous”. Thank you. Agree with Partner 2 on no judging. No matter what any of us think, at least you made us think! Extra hugs to hubby and kids tonight for me.

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Stopped taking everything so personally - both personally and professionally.

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Two: Got married and had a baby.

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Seeing my kids become great adults

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Moving from a HCOL city to a small city.

Became a partner

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