What is the best way to get time with the family? I did not get to take enough time over the holiday but I feel my family needs me more, and I owe them a vacation maybe this year or something.

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Agree with the broad feedback. One tactical recommendation that worked for me is to use one calendar for work and family. Block it every day for family time and block larger chunks of time on weekends or when you are planning vacations.

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Sounds like a vacation won’t fix it. Carve out time for them, every day every week. Have priorities.

My rule is that 9-5 m-f work is priority and I will do stuff with family, but any work activity trumps it. All other times I am happy to work, but any family thing, any at all, trumps the work thing. My family mostly ignore me, so I get a lot done at work.

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Also figure out what’s important and be consistent.

For us, dinner time is sacred. I can hop back on after, but that principal is known and respected across my various teams

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Boundaries, mostly

A vacation? Like one vacation the entire year?

You should aim for a lot more than that.

Learn to say no and prioritize what’s really important!

I agree. If I may add, be present during special occasions. They would appreciate your presence.

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The easiest way is by prioritizing their needs above your career.

Book a vacation? What’s the question?

“Or something?”

Sounds like you need a lot more than an annual vacation to get right with your family.

What *is* important to your family? Do you know? If you “feel” they need you more, is this based on your gut or have you spoken with them? What do they need/want? Is it dinner most nights? Is it attending their sporting events? Is it one-on-one time every Saturday? If you don’t know what they need from you, it’s a crap shoot whether you will be able to provide it. Start with that and then carve out boundaries so you can provide it.

A vacation would be nice. Make it a week-long if you can. Also, pay more attention and spend more time with them after this.

“Owe them a vacation”? Is it not fun for you too? This sounds like you’re gracing them with your presence… maybe instead of thinking like you’re doing them a favor think of your wellness as a family unit.

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