What shall I do: the senior consultant I am working with is extremely condescending and borderline rude in the way he communicates with me (granted he is very qualified, but still rude e.g. he laughed at my input in a KOL interview...during the interview). It has been ongoing for ~3 weeks now and is seriously affecting my motivation on this engagements and hence, the quality of my output. Any tips on how to handle/proceed with this?

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OP, what your describing (laughing at your contributions, general rudeness, etc.) falls below the minimum standard of professional behavior. In constrast with the other advice you've received, I would recommend that you be more assertive: Have a private conversation and politely, but firmly, point out the behaviors that are unacceptable to you and that you need them to change. This isn't a problem with you and how you need to receive feedback in a certain way; this is a problem with this individual and he/she need to fix it ASAP. I know having this conversation is going to be uncomfortable, but learning how to stand up for yourself in a professional setting is a key skill to master early. (I'm inferring your fairly junior from the other statements in you're post - apologies if that's an incorrect assumption).

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Sorry one last thing (I know, I'm writing a novel here): Do this now! This won't get any easier if you strew about it. You'll just keep analyzing it over and over and worrying about it. Rip off the band aid! Regardless of how it goes, you'll feel better about yourself for standing up for yourself.

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Ignore the emotion in feedback and take the message inside. There is a long road ahead, no point being bogged down by some individual's approach to providing feedback.
That being said, have an open conversation expressing your eagerness to learn and what form of feedback helps you get the most out of them. Your lead will get the hint.

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You are a human being and deserved to be treated with dignity. There's no place for laughing at a colleague's interaction in a client setting even if it was a WTF moment.

I've dealt with dumb questions or interjections from colleagues both above and below me. Usually with empathy and patience. Occassionally with sharpness if I'm reexplaining something I've explained to someone multiple times. But never unprofessional.

You can demand to be treated with basic human courtesy. You can respectfully ask this guy what his deal is. Just pointing out that he's kind of an asshole might be enough to cause him to temper his more terrible interactions.

At the same time, like a PP said, try to analyze his "feedback" objectively. Just because he's an asshole doesn't mean you can't learn a thing or two. I've had some bosses that other people thought were assholes that I worked great with because I was able to separate the asshole from the learning experience (and eventually built up a relationship where I could call the asshole out when he crossed the line)

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Unfortunately you will deal with these kind of people your entire career. Some people are just little children in big roles and although extremely smart with what they do, they lack all common sense when it comes to social interaction. The best thing you can do is learn from their mistakes and commit yourself to be better than they are. Because one day it will be your turn to be on their side of the table.

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Have a direct conversation AND tell your coach now, just for info and not trying to report yet. Give him a chance to change and if he doesn't, report it

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